I’d like you to think about these questions and give your answers in the comments (don’t be shy). These questions have been percolating since the start of the adoptees flipping the script last November. The pushback by some adoptive parents that led to one even stating it was a War On Adoption, the concerns raised by some adoption professionals…so please answer the questions below.
What does an adoptee owe to adoption? Must we be the ambassadors for adoption and allow our stories, pictures to be broadcast to the public? Are we fair game to be used to promote adoption? Is how we act, feel, always to be scrutinized in how it may be regarded or impact adoption?
By adoption, I mean the institution of adoption, how the public views adoption as a cultural practice, or custom if you will. And if you decide that adoptees need to give deference to adoption, how much deference? Should adoptees promote adoption over their truths? Should they be happy with the status quo and never talk about what needs changing? Why or Why not? What is acceptable behavior and why for an adoptee? What isn’t acceptable behavior if you are an adoptee and why? Are adoptees indebted to adoption? Forever? Would you want to be indebted in this way? Did thinking about this make you feel differently over how you viewed adoptees speaking up? In what way?