I’d like you to think about these questions and give your answers in the comments (don’t be shy). These questions have been percolating since the start of the adoptees flipping the script last November. The pushback by some adoptive parents that led to one even stating it was a War On Adoption, the concerns raised by some adoption professionals…so please answer the questions below. Read the rest of this entry »
Monthly Archives: July 2015
Another adoption reunion story in the news, an international adoption story from Japan with a State Senator from Hawaii being the one adopted. It was a good story. Hawaii state senator meets birth mother after almost half a century. It also highlighted what I’ve wanted to talk about, waiting till your parents pass away before searching, so that’s what this post is about, plus some other ramblings. Many adoptees are just like this Senator who waited until after both parents had passed away, it is a personal choice, but adoptive parents can make sure their children don’t make that choice solely because they are worried about how you might feel, or because the adoptee feels it would be disloyal to you.
What is the first thing that you think of when you hear the term: Outreach Read the rest of this entry »
I’d read this story about Christopher Emanuel fighting for the right to parent his child who’d been placed for adoption by the baby’s mother. The twist to his story is that he’d actually won the right to parent his child, unlike so many other fathers who lost when adoption was on the table. If you’ve read this blog for any length of time, you know I think it’s wrong for willing fathers to be shut out. All things being equal, both the mother and the father should have the right to consent or contest the adoption of their child. Ethics matter, especially in adoption.
Please go to Rileys in Uganda link below and read the Q&A post with David Smolin It’s about his session with Jedd Meddefind at CAFO conference.
I often see adoptive parents post lists of things not to say to adoptive families, or talk about how the media gets things so wrong, terrible Lifetime movies, TV shows that don’t get adoption right, the words used by others instead of using positive adoption language, and how damaging all those things are to the adopted child.
You know what they never include in those lists or all the other things that everyone else gets so wrong?
All those videos and blog posts talking about how wonderful, and brave the birthmother is who just placed, or is placing her baby for adoption, and isn’t it just beautiful. I’ve never seen them say, wait a minute, that could be triggering for, or damaging to my child to watch another mother do that, especially my child whose struggling right now with why they weren’t kept, what was wrong with them, why weren’t they good enough to keep.
Nope, I never see pushback by adoptive parents about that, if you have, link in the comments…