While doing those seemingly endless mundane chores around the house, I suddenly had this bizarre thought out of the blue – so here I am throwing it out for discussion.
Could the reason why people focus so much on the adoptive parents when reunion stories come up, an adoptee dares to speak out about feelings of loss, adoption practices, etc., boil down to the fact that in their hearts, they don’t really believe that adoption, and being adopted could be anyone’s norm. So it’s always questionable whether an adopted child will love (or loves) their parents who parent them? And, I’m talking about people both inside adoption and the general public.
Is it really that hard to believe that a child can love their parents who raise them? Is that why everyone needs to hear about the adoptee’s relationship with their parents to determine the validity of what they are saying? Does it boil down to the fact that they actually (despite claiming otherwise) see it as abnormal to have a parent child relationship without genetic ties?
(hopefully that makes sense and you get what I’m trying to say)