I know, I couldn’t have picked a more provocative title if I’d tried. Last night, while winding down, I read an article about why the Adoptee Rights Bill in Texas didn’t get to a vote. An adoptive mother who is also a Texas state senator stopped it – in its tracks. Wow, just wow is all I can say to that…
But of course, I was curious about what the comments were like, and I was slapped in the face by this comment by ‘Not You’…
Being adopted, She’s right. There are very few fairy tale stories of finding the mother that gave you away….
They didn’t want you then what makes you think that they will want you now?
You have to be a selfish bastard to not understand the love given by your adopted parents.
That didn’t elicit a Wow, just wow from me. I was gobsmacked, speechless.
Later, as I told a friend, I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry at the irony of calling adoptees – selfish bastards. It also stung, more than I’d care to admit – even though it wasn’t directed at me, it was directed at other adoptees. Whether ‘Not You’ is just an ignorant jack-ass and that’s a common phrase that person uses, or ‘Not You’ used it on purpose because he/she is an adoptee and knows the connection between a bastard and adoption – who knows. Personally, I suspect the latter and that it was used to shame other adoptees in Texas daring to want what everyone else born in Texas has access to, their factual historical record of birth…
For those born more recently, the snippet above is from my original birth certificate, question 23. Legitimate? Yes No. Not only is there an X in the No box, they also circled it, to make it clear it wasn’t a mistake. This question is missing from my amended certified raised seal photostactic copy sent to mom and dad when they adopted me, it is only a short form birth certificate. If they issued a long form amended birth certificate, it would show an X in the Yes box. Magically rewriting history to say I was born legitimate…therefore, not a bastard…
- born of parents who were not married to each other at the time of birth; bastard
- forbidden by law; illegal; unlawful
- contrary to logic; incorrectly reasoned
- an illegitimate person; bastard