Adoption and TV – again…

25 May

Life’s been overwhelming me lately, not that it takes much though.  As a result my words aren’t working, so I thought I’d throw out a blurb on a show we watched.  The second to last episode of the season of The Night Shift on NBC, that would have aired about the 15th of May.  (Spoilers ahead if anyone has recorded it and not watched).

To me, they handled being an adoptee brilliantly.  Kudos to them.

I paid special attention so I could tell you the adoptee’s name is Scott, and he was talking to a teenager who was angry at what had happened to him (mother died at his birth, father died a year ago, his sister was taking him to his uncle’s).  The teen was angry at the secrets (lies) kept from him throughout his life, the latest was his sister for not telling him that she had a rare disease, and without a bone marrow donation from him, she’d die too.

Backing up: His sister had decided not to ask her younger brother to be her donor, rather because she was dying, to take him to their uncle, but her disease was uncovered at the hospital after the car crash, and the doctor said she’d tell her brother, and ask him to donate.  The result of the telling and asking was that he said no, he was leaving, he’d had enough.   Anyway, the other doctor told Scott (a surgeon), who went and talked to him outside where he was sitting on a bench, told him he was adopted, connected his feelings of wondering what life would have been like if he’d not been adopted, all the why’s and feelings, and other bits, that despite having a great family who loved him, those feelings were still there, they were normal.  Scott then talked about his mother contacting him when he was in residency, wanting to meet him, reasons why he didn’t, which included feelings of loyalty to his parents holding him back, and just being afraid and not sure what to do.  He then talked about regrets, and the fact that it took him a year to respond, and by then it was too late, his mother had passed, and to not do something you’d regret forever, like he’d done.

Whoever wrote the script did a really good job in my opinion…and it caught my attention but did not make me want throw my drink at the TV.  And, any adoptive parents who watched it, couldn’t get upset, because by my count, he said twice what a great family he had.


What’s up with you?  Anything you want to talk about?  Do you watch the show?  What did you think?


Posted by on May 25, 2015 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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4 responses to “Adoption and TV – again…

  1. yan

    May 26, 2015 at 12:54 am

    I haven’t seen it — I’ve not watched that show at all, but it must have been refreshing to see a person who was also an adoptee whose adoption story didn’t define the larger story line. I know adoption takes over our lives sometimes, and sometimes it’s all we talk about online, but it is just one part of each of us, even if it’s a big one. I always wonder how the writer is connected to adoption when I see it handled well (it is so very rare).

    I have been watching, via Hulu, an Australian show that’s called “Bess of Both Worlds” here in the states (it’s called “Upper Middle Bogan” there, but that title makes no sense in the US because it’s Australian slang). The protagonist is a late-discovery adoptee, and while the show is sit-com-ish, it also really gets into adoptee issues in a way that makes me thing that someone on the writing staff has been there, done that.


  2. cb

    May 26, 2015 at 4:41 am

    Yan, what episode are you up to?


  3. Jess

    May 26, 2015 at 1:20 pm

    “And, any adoptive parents who watched it, couldn’t get upset, because by my count, he said twice what a great family he had.”

    Hilarious. Spitting out my coffee.


  4. teddy1975

    May 27, 2015 at 5:09 am

    Oh, in Thuis (the popular Flemish soap meaning “Home”/”or at home”) it just turned out that Sam’s birth mother is really her best friend Simonneke (currently in her 20th season), who thought/was told that she had a stillbirth 37 years ago, which was a lie, just like Sam’s origin being a foundling in the woods was a lie. OK, it is real soap stuff, but it did lead to some attention from Flemish papers for realcases in which the theft of a newborn was covered by telling the mother her child had died, and all those lies are pretty realistic too.



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