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What happened this last year, and a wish for the new year…

By TAO

Usually I do a 12 for the last 12 months to post on this day, so here are the top things that come to mind that happened this year:

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Posted by on December 31, 2014 in Uncategorized

 

Reunion story of some of the siblings that is hard to just read…

By TAO

Hat tip to Adoption News and Events FB page where I found this story…

Reuniting a broken family: Children given away ‘like puppies’

My wish for the new year is that they will find, and reunite with their missing siblings…I just can’t imagine living with the pain they have had all these years…

 
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Posted by on December 30, 2014 in Adoption

 

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Good article that sparked discussions about the amended birth certificate…

By TAO

Interesting article by an adoptee who is also becoming an adoptive parent.

I don’t want my name on my daughters birth certificate

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Posted by on December 28, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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A Christmas Story of an Adoption

By TAO

This post is about a good friend of mine, another adoptee from the same era, and part of her adoption story.  Her parents, like mine, weren’t shy about talking about adoption.  My friend has wrestled with a story in her adoption, that I don’t have in mine.  Every Christmas she remembers this story, at times while she was growing up, she loved it, then it was okay, other years, not so much, and in its own way, haunts her, both in a good and bad way.  She’s had this story for over a half a century.

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Posted by on December 26, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Thinking about you…

By TAO

I had another post planned for today, but had too many thoughts running through my mind this morning, and felt the need to write something else to reach out to others.

It’s days like this that I miss dad, the memories of Christmas past, a roaring fire in the fireplace, carols playing in the background, good smells coming from the kitchen.  We didn’t have set times when we opened presents, usually not in the morning, we did always open our Christmas stockings.  Now days, Christmas has lost that sparkle of the young naïve family with small children.  Tragedies have happened to loved ones, others have passed away from old age, there are no little children to spoil and just sit and happily watch.  Christmas just isn’t the same anymore, too much has happened since I was a little one.  This year has been particularly hard…so we are just holding steady, and hoping for a better new year…

I woke up this morning worrying about adoptees and parents of birth on this holiday that is so focused on family.  Holidays are hard for many, and I wanted others to know that I’m thinking about you.

 
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Posted by on December 25, 2014 in Adoption

 

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Adoptees and a study worth reading…

By TAO

I’m always fascinated by the different feelings about being adopted, how or when they change in either direction.  I shy away from most of the super positive about being adopted adoptees and the very negative about their being adopted adoptee.  Neither end of the spectrum is healthy because life is never all rosy without a glitch or hint of sad, or the opposite, always bad.  There are exceptions to my shying away, I have a sweet, gentle friend on FB who would be seen as a super positive about being adopted adoptee.  She expresses her feelings about being adopted, yet she is also open to listening, looking for similarities to what someone is saying, looks at her experience, and finds things in common.  I think perhaps we are very similar, but our personality and language used, is what makes us seem different.

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Posted by on December 16, 2014 in Adoption

 

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I felt disrespected…

Well, I’m back but I’m making it clear – I do not like it when people do something that I said no to, and I realize I’m being cryptic but I’m not one to publicly call someone out.  Just to say, I felt completely blindsided and disrespected.

I’m disappointed.  I expected better.

Now I not sure what to do now, how open I can be anymore.  Still, I like having conversations with people I’ve met online, and found really wonderful conversations can happen.  Thoughtful honest conversations about a really tough subject called adoption.  A subject that at times pits each side against the other, other times can bring all sides together.  I want those conversations to keep happening because I think we all grow from them.

I know I do.

But we don’t grow when people are disrespectful of what you asked them not to do.

 
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Posted by on December 14, 2014 in Adoption

 

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