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Well-Adjusted…

By TAO

River by TAO - 2014While the idea of adoptees being studied has always bothered me, there was something else, I couldn’t name it, but it centered around the term well-adjusted, and how it was used by some within the adoption industry.  Then I saw this on twitter a while back, the NCFA Adoption Advocate publication #69 on Mental Health Professionals Education and Adoptees.  I’ve revised this post many times, and I leave it to you to decide if it makes sense, or not.

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Posted by on March 30, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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Must read post…

By TAO

For all the Christians who should have acted better…especially those who say they are concerned for orphans and vulnerable children…

“A Response to World Vision Bullies” or “On the Backs of Children”

 
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Posted by on March 27, 2014 in Adoption, Ethics

 

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Adoption on TV again…

By TAO

We watched the show NCIS last night, it has been one of my favorites for years, although other than Mark Harmon, I couldn’t tell you who the actors are, or even most of their character names (I looked them up so this post makes sense).  I like to be entertained and the writers make it so that you can’t figure out who the guilty party is within the first few scenes.  Over the years, I’ve watched characters come and go, but to me, the show has staying power.  (Spoiler alert – after the break I talk about last nights episode.) Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on March 19, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child, Ethics

 

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Wishing the best…

By TAO

Long-time readers know one of my biggest concerns is that adoption, in particular closed adoption, denies adoptees access to knowledge of what health issues run in their family, that kept members would be aware of.  With openness that is mitigated somewhat, provided the adoption stays open and both sides of the adoptee’s family are included, not perfect, but better.

Yet, there are still closed adoptions both domestically, and internationally beyond anyone’s control.  Sometimes, it isn’t just knowledge that is needed to make the difference.  Thankfully in this story, the family had searched for their child’s family prior to the diagnosis, and had success in finding them.

I hope everything goes well, and according to plan, my thoughts are with the family.

Stratham boy finds bone marrow match

 
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Posted by on March 11, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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Tired and angry…

By TAO

I’m angry and I am having a hard time getting past that.  It’s starting to spill over into my life and I’m not seeing the beauty in the world around me.  I don’t want that to be my norm.  Part of the reason is that I am so angry that I can’t find the words to release it, and tired that so few in adoption speak up loudly when things are not right, combined with the fact there doesn’t seem to be an end of cases that involve adoptions not being done right. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on March 9, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child, Ethics

 

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Pieces of me…

By TAO

I have pondered that I am finding out who I am from two completely unrelated, yet related, events.  I continue to be amazed when it dawns on me that “this” or “that” used to be part of what made me, me, and “this or “that” is why I am, the way I am.  I have tried to explain it in other posts but never could to my satisfaction, expect a rambling post that may or may not make a lot of sense… Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on March 4, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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Because she gave me life…

By TAO

If your mom, cousin, friend, the random person on the street – said she loved her mom because she gave me life, you probably wouldn’t think anything of it other than she was explaining the most basic of all concepts – of course I love my mom – she gave me life… Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on March 1, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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