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Different perspectives…

By TAO

Time for other voices to be heard, and realistically, my voice is too angry right now.  Angry after reading a specific document this week that I can’t stop thinking about… Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on February 22, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child, Ethics

 

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Different story, same response…

By TAO

Please excuse the double posting of some of the tweets – first time trying this…

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Posted by on February 19, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Unconscious bias in the adoption community

By TAO

I like a good adoption reunion story as much as anyone else.  People post the stories (myself included) on their blogs, facebook pages, twitter, with words like heartwarming, beautiful, wonderful.  One of the current ones making the rounds that is accepted by everyone in the adoption community; fifty years later siblings meet each other.  The other story is about twins separated at birth (unknown to them) – finding each other twenty some years later.  That one is also universally accepted because of that instinctive feelings of repugnance at the thought of separating twins. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on February 16, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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Perhaps I just don’t get it…

By TAO

A comment by an adult adoptee on this Huff Post article on CNN Michaela Pereira Opens Up About Her Adoption…

I watched the segment yesterday, and thought she did a great job describing her feelings about both sides of her. The pull to know where she came from – regardless of how wonderful her family is.  No digs in either direction, just honest heartfelt feelings of an adult adoptee. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on February 12, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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To those who don’t agree with Adoptee Rights…

By TAO

To anyone who disagrees with an Adoptee Rights Bill to allow Adult Adoptees to request, and receive, their Original Birth Certificate.  If you have followed along, I’m sure you have listened to, or will listen to testimonies by adoption attorneys, adoption agencies, and adoption professional lobbyists who will speak about mothers being given promises by them, or their predecessors, and how those promises need to be kept.  They will also likely testify about the mothers wanting that privacy, but perhaps not explain the privacy they may have wanted at the time.  I’m not going to go into the obvious argument about the state not being required to protect promises made by businesses – when everyone knows laws change all the time, or there wouldn’t be legislators.  I want to talk instead about what a mother may, or may not have wanted at the time, and the concept that it still holds true of what she wants today.  I want you to challenge yourself, to do what I am going to do below. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on February 10, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Makes absolutely no sense, never has…

By TAO

Pretty sure this post is going to offend some people, hopefully, those who get offended keep thinking about what I am saying, and dig deep to see the point.  This post is not meant to be mean.  Now, as you know I don’t like to link to posts because making them feel bad isn’t the point.  Never  has been.  What it is for is to hopefully give people something to really think about.  Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on February 6, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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What you heard might not be what was said…

By TAO

The title also applies to the written word as well.  We all have certain expectations when we hear something, we create a picture in our head based on our biases, and beliefs.  A couple of months ago, I stumbled article that made me try to review why I thought what I did, about a story mom told, and it has nothing to do with adoption. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on February 2, 2014 in Uncategorized