2013 – a hard year but for some a good year too..

31 Dec


Last year, I did 12 for 12 to end the year and I enjoyed trying to come up with posts others may have not read.  This year I decided to mix it up a bit…this year focusing adoptees and fathers and justice or not…and no, I don’t expect you to read all the links they are just for reference because this post took a while to compile…

1.  Justice happened this year for Hana.  The story of Hana’s death and how she and Immanuel were treated by Larry and Carri Williams still brings tears to my eyes.  A post about Hana by Kathryn Joyce here.

2.  Another case where justice for an adoptee happened just this month.  On December 19th, the inquest into the death of Ashley Smith found it was a homicide.

Many fathers have been in the news in the last few years contesting adoption of their child.  Some have won, yet, many fathers who have fought to parent their child for years are still waiting for an answer from the courts.  Lets hope 2014 becomes the year people start realizing that babies for adoption do not happen through immaculate conception, but rather, those babies have fathers and they care.

3.  A sad outcome for Dusten Brown in his quest to raise his daughter.

4.  A good outcome in the case of Sgt. Terry Achane and his daughter Teleah, link to last article.

5. Christopher Carlton is still waiting a ruling from the Utah Supreme Court as far as I can tell.

6.  Rob Manzanares is waiting the ruling from a December 2013 hearing in Colorado should happen in a few weeks, yet has taken far too many years and court cases to get to this point.  This is yet another case involving Utah where the Colorado mother went to give birth.  This case started back in January 2008, and in January 2012 the Utah Supreme Court ruled for the father sending the case back to the lower courts.  In March 2012 a Utah judge agreed to dismiss the adoption petition leaving the door open for Colorado to take jurisdiction, in the time since – he’s had a few opportunities to get to know his child.

7.  Jake Strickland is still pressing on in the Utah courts.  Article from December 2011, and as I understand it, he is currently waiting on whether the Utah Supreme Court will hear the appeal.  Big news is that a civil suit has been filed…posts with the last day or two here and here.

8.  Ramsey Shaud a father who filed in the putative father’s registries in Florida, Arizona, and Utah and whose child was born in January 2010, won a legal victory at that Utah Supreme Court level in November of 2012 but according to this article in February 2013 still had not been reunited with his child.  If anyone has any new information it would be appreciated.

9.  Jeremy Simmonds and Baby Desirai, a baby born in Oklahoma in 2013 and moved to South Carolina.  Case is still pending as far as I know.

10.  Jacob Brooks case is transferred to the Utah Supreme Court per Mr. Wes Hutchins at the Utah Council for Ethical Adoptions Facebook page which states he is from Pennsylvania, and the now familiar story about the mother going to Utah.  I can’t find any newspaper reports about this case, and assume Mr. Hutchins is his attorney.

11.  Texas father Samuel Gerome Dye won in Utah just this month.  Texas father reunited with 2-year-old son placed for adoption in Utah this summer.  While this case was similar, it was also very different as the mother placed the child for adoption as a toddler.

12. This last entry is for the many other fathers who have fought, and are fighting for, the right to parent their child.  They aren’t taking it quietly anymore, and I applaud them and give thanks to lawyers willing to stand tall beside them.  No one in the adoption world can say fathers don’t care anymore.  While searching for updates to the above cases, I came upon this article from 2007 that was sparked by yet another father contesting.  I urge you to read it because it paints a clear picture of how some in the adoption industry feel about fathers, and mothers too for that matter.

I’ll leave you with this post (definition and further down the poem) to mull on as this year comes to a close. Hiraeth

If I have made any errors please tell because this post was hard to do and get right…


Posted by on December 31, 2013 in Adoption


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8 responses to “2013 – a hard year but for some a good year too..

  1. Don't We Look Alike?

    January 1, 2014 at 12:53 am

    Just stopping in to say Happy New Year! I hope that 2014 brings some great adoption reforms . . . .


  2. Marijane Nguyen, MT-BC

    January 1, 2014 at 5:03 pm

    Thanks so much for bringing awareness to the cases in this post. So often we hear about the birthmother, but rarely the biological father. I look forward to reading more about each case via the links you provided. Happy New Year to you! I always enjoy reading the posts on your blog.


    • TAO

      January 1, 2014 at 5:16 pm

      Thanks Marijane – I hope I succeed in bringing awareness in a manner “everyone” can hear because that’s crucial – I also know I fail sometimes because I don’t have a gentle voice like I read in your posts. Happy New Year to you too!


  3. kym

    January 1, 2014 at 5:48 pm

    Hi TAO,
    I just learned about your blog this year and really like how you write. Thanks for this Year of the Father list.

    I wanted to add to Baby Desirai’s story. Sadly, it’s still pending.

    Baby Desirai’s father, paternal grandparents, and maternal grandparents/relatives all protest the adoption. Baby Desirai was illegally removed from Oklahoma when she was 2 or 3 days old for placement with 60 and 64 year old abusive PAPs with 4 grown offspring and grandchildren – 2 abused offspring object to adoption. Oklahoma courts ordered her to be returned in September, 2013 but South Carolina still refuses. The same lawyers and adoption agencies who initiated Veronica’s adoption are pushing for Baby Desirai’s unethical adoption. I believe Baby Desirai is now in foster care in South Carolina, despite that numerous family members and her tribe in Oklahoma object to adoption and want her returned ASAP. Next court date: 1/16/14.

    Earlier newspaper articles referred to Baby Desirai as Baby Deseray.


    • TAO

      January 1, 2014 at 6:19 pm

      Thanks Kym….I hope 2014 is the year hearts are opened and everyone decides ethics matters in adoption.



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