If you are on Facebook, then I’m sure you have seen pictures of adoptees holding up signs detailing their search to know who they were born to be, or posts seeking information. Adoptees reduced to putting their personal information, and private story out there for any, and all, to see – only because they were adopted, and being adopted took away the most basic human right of all – to know who you were born to be.
It is absolutely shameful that the adoption industry has stood in the way of doing what is right for adoptees, rather than working to correct the wrong. Absolutely shameful...
How can they sit in their fancy boardrooms, put on, or present at conferences, create pithy advertising slogans to entice a vulnerable expectant mother to choose adoption, tweet how wonderful adoption is, and talk, talk, talk, about how much good adoption does – and not give a damn about the rights of adoptees to know where they came from?
You have to ask yourself just how much they really care…because if they cared, they would stand up and be counted…
If there is nothing shameful in being adopted, then there is no reason to keep our original birth certificate sealed under lock and key, a lock and key that for many adoptees – was applied retroactively.
If some adoption practitioners have misled their clients that they can remain anonymous forever, and ever – then have the guts to stand up and say you were wrong. That the adoptees are what matters most in adoption, and right now they are being treated as second-class citizens in many states – whether in open or closed adoptions.
If the adoption industry is afraid of the scandal of how mothers were treated – stand up, come clean and apologize, it’s good for the soul.
If the adoption industry is really about what is best the child – then for Pete’s sake – act like it, children grow up to be adults and being denied the right to their original birth certificate doesn’t meet the standard – it makes them less-than the non-adopted.
If the adoption industry wanted to correct the wrongs of the past that are still in effect today – they would ask the Adoptee Rights Groups in each state how they can help, no conditions, just support for full equality, whatever it takes to make it right. They would stand behind the adoptees as they lead the way to restoring the right taken away – simply because they were adopted.
If the adoption industry wanted to ensure the mistakes of the past stop being repeated and never happen again – they would require every adoption practitioner to educate their clients that the adoptee is the most important member in adoption, and how their rights should never be compromised to make others feel comfortable. Your job is to do right by the adoptee first and foremost, whatever it takes.
Adoptive parents – you should care about the rights of every single adoptee, because your child is an adoptee too. You want your adoptee to grow up to be equal in the eyes of the law to non-adopted adults – don’t you? Stand behind the adoptees in fixing the laws that were changed over the years by the efforts of lobbying voices in adoption…
“I have learned that to be with those I like is enough”
― Walt Whitman
Oct 2014: You may speak freely, but please try to use words that everyone can hear about your individual story or view. If you don't, those who can actually benefit won't hear it, I want to see change in my lifetime. I may refuse to approve certain comments.
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