I’m the type of person who strikes up conversations in check-out lines and most any other public area. Usually, I can find a common ground with someone, and also know there are areas we will disagree on, that works in life and on-line. I don’t expect everyone, or even anyone to agree with me on all things, I do expect to be treated with common courtesy, and, do my best to treat others the same. We all fail in that by the way. So, where am going with this?
Kristen, over at Rage Against the Minivan put up a post about the reality show that is now in re-runs, and a second post on racism. She spoke her mind in both posts and some people disagreed, strongly, and not very nicely – there is no common ground anymore apparently. I have read some of her posts over the years, and I don’t agree with her views on some subjects, other subjects I think she has a point, I’m sure she would feel the same if she read this blog. I also believe she has grown over the years, and perhaps her views are more nuanced, or filled with more of a growing awareness than before. Just like I have grown and my views are more nuanced. Do our views meet in the middle? On some we do find a common ground, others not so much, but that’s okay. Listening to other people’s views is the gift this thing called the internet gives us, it allows us to step outside of our small circle and expand our minds and see why others think differently. I think it makes us better people, more tolerant and perhaps we even change our view. It can also makes us bold in how we lash back at each other, and it’s at that point that we need to remember – that there are real human beings on the other side of the screen. Real people with real feelings.
I feel bad for the anger being directed at Kristen. Yes, she puts herself out there, willingly, but I think she does it with the best of intentions, and the intent matters to me. I haven’t read through all the comments, but those I have made me sad, and apparently it isn’t only comments, but emails as well – it’s one thing to disagree, it’s another to call the person names.
It seems like people who are at either end of any argument aren’t willing to meet at the middle, and see where either, or both sides could agree. It doesn’t matter if it is this dust-up or the one yet to happen. Finding the common ground and agreeing to disagree on the rest is a concept that no longer exists – they only want to tell the person they are wrong in no uncertain terms, and be mean about it too.
(I am purposely changing the first two words in the link below because I don’t like traffic and hope that works, and if you comment do not use names related to this saga please – if you see this post disappear you know why)
A short history lesson of racism in Louisiana for those who may be confused – See more at: http://www.rageagainsttheminivan.com/2013/12/a-short-history-lesson-of-racism-in.html#sthash.vIdX4zsl.dpuf
On the flip side: all the comments made by people defending the fact that he was simply stating what he saw, or experienced, or believes. I wonder if they jump to defend adoptees when they speak of their experiences, what they have seen, what they believe… or if they are the ones who prefer to dismiss an adoptee by saying they know an adoptee (or ten) who doesn’t feel that way… guessing they are in the latter group. What do you think?