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Monthly Archives: November 2013

Dad…

By TAO

Dad is often in my mind and this week has been no different.  He didn’t suffer fools easily, had few words, but gave far more of himself to his family, and community, than he ever received in return.  Now days, I think of him often when I read about the grief of infertility, and, how it is hard to go to baby showers and see others create families without any apparent struggle. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on November 29, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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Strongly worded article in Huff Post…

By TAO

I’m impressed.  Go read it now by Adam Pertman of the Adoption Institute and Bruce Boyer is Director of the Civitas ChildLaw Clinic at Loyola University in Chicago.

The Baby Veronica Saga: Denial of a Father’s Rights and Now a $1 Million Lesson

Too bad other groups in adoption don’t seem to stand up on the side of ethics…

 
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Posted by on November 27, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child, Ethics

 

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Adoption is always wonderful to some…and never to be questioned…

By TAO

My last post was primarily about an adoption that needed to happen, and, how thankful I am that the babe would have good parents that are the right type of parents (my criteria).  In that post I listed the thoughts that run through my head when I hear about “an adoption“.  Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on November 26, 2013 in Adoption, Ethics

 

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Something to ponder…

By TAO

An adoption happened this past week that I am thankful happened.  I’m thankful that a child who needed a home, has a good home.  That a brand-new baby found a very good mom and dad.   Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on November 16, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, Ethics

 

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My Positive Adoption Story

By Shadow

By request, from a commenter, on another post, we’ve been asked to write about positive adoption stories. The request and the question asked by many potential adoptive parents, as well as, adoptive parents, for positive adoption stories always puzzles me. Why does adoption have to be either negative, or positive? I don’t understand, so I have to ask, “What, exactly, is a positive adoption story?” Read the rest of this entry »

 
 

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A father and Utah….

By TAO

I have watched this case for a while, and, every time I read about it – I get upset all over again.  The father is from Pennsylvania, a veteran of multiple tours in Iraq, who lost his child at birth to an adoption in Utah, and has fought for his child since. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on November 10, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child, Ethics

 

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Shadow’s Spin Off From The Post “Double Standards In Adoption”

By Shadow The Adoptee

I first began this to be a comment in response to TAO’s post, “Double Standards In Adoption”. This is one of those things that, as an adoptee, I struggle with when the subject comes up, because, for me, it is such a slap in the face, dished out by the powers that be of adoption. These powers that be, who are financed, and encouraged, by adoption agencies, use the excuse of “protecting a birth mother’s right to privacy” to prevent adoptees from what is their birth right as a human being; the knowledge of their biology. Instead of posting it as a comment, I wanted it to stand alone. I am the less vocal one on this blog, I felt the need to speak up on this subject, and my words can stand on their own. Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Double Standards in Adoption…

By TAO

I’ve been silent for a while trying to put these thoughts on paper, which has turned into more of a challenge than I imagined it would.  Having said that, these thoughts have sat in the back of my mind since I read an article on changing law to allow adult adoptees their original birth certificate, that’s not what my thoughts are about – just what triggered them.  There are so many ways standards only apply when it benefits adoption, and are completely ignored when it favors the family of birth.  Apologies in advance for mistakes I still don’t see.  Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on November 6, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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Ted Talk “The Danger of the Single Story”

I have done four posts about this Ted Talk over the years – and I can’t seem to stop myself from posting it again for November Adoption Awareness Month…

I don’t think it matters if you are in an open-domestic adoption – right through to a closed international adoption – what you know about the family of birth is limited to what you have been told.  (video at the end of the post.)

Chimanda Ngozi Adichie – “The Danger of the Single Story” Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on November 1, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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