I have been reading posts on the different orphan ministries sites over the last few years. The message I hear is a call to adopt the orphans or fatherless. From my view point they seem to use the terms orphans or fatherless interchangably. That all children deserve the protection of fathers. They do at times bring up the concept of family preservation but scant details are provided.
Meanwhile, I also watch the domestic adoption sites and how the message is to choose adoption, a stable two parent family is best, and, you can go on with fulfilling all your dreams. A few give a nod to fathers – in a “if you are on board with adoption that’s great – you can come to the table and be involved” type of message. On other sites – the father just doesn’t seem to exist, and some go so far they seem to view him just as an issue to be dealt with to complete the adoption.
So you have the orphan ministries preaching the message to adopt the fatherless – because all children deserve to have a father.
On the domestic adoption side, it seems like fathers are just an issue to be dealt with – so the child can be adopted. If a father contests then he has an uphill battle to be a father to his child. If he loses, and he often does, then statements like the adoption was done legally, and, based on the laws in the state. Something isn’t right when laws help deprive a father who wants to parent – of his right to be a parent. I do understand the need to have a defined process that doesn’t go on for years in the life of a child – but it has gone way too far in my opinion.
My question – how do you expect adoption to be seen as valid when depending on the market – the words and actions are so different? Isn’t it time to go back to finding a home for a child who needs one? Isn’t that the right message to be sending – considering that every adoption starts as a loss by severing a child from their own family?
The first link below is by Kathryn Joyce – the second link has quotes worth reading by a lawyer about fathers.
“I have learned that to be with those I like is enough”
― Walt Whitman
Oct 2014: You may speak freely, but please try to use words that everyone can hear about your individual story or view. If you don't, those who can actually benefit won't hear it, I want to see change in my lifetime. I may refuse to approve certain comments.
Elvis Presley ( 1960 ) Elvis Presley completes his two-year stint is discharged from the US Army. Bank Holiday to Save Banks 5th March ( 1933 ) : To help stop the run on US banks U.S. President Franklin D. Roosevelt announced a four-day "bank holiday" . All U.S. banks would close effective March 6 to help stop Americans from withdrawing their money […]