Every adoptee is supposed to have an adoption story…

By TAO

I remember my adoption story.  It is still told today so many years later, most of it involves how I came to be adopted into my family.  It describes exactly what took place, and, why I needed to be adopted.  All of which was valid, all of which was done ethically, and, all was done with grace.

 

I’ve lost all faith…

By TAO

You know I try really hard to see the good in people.  I want to believe there are more good people in adoption, than bad.  I want to believe that folks want to do adoptions ethically and morally.

 

Two different attitudes…

By TAO

I have been reading posts on the different orphan ministries sites over the last few years.  The message I hear is a call to adopt the orphans or fatherless.  From my view point they seem to use the terms orphans or fatherless interchangably.  That all children deserve the protection of fathers.  They do at times bring up the concept of family preservation but scant details are provided.

 

Choosing guardians – take two…

By TAO

I originally wrote the post below titled Choosing guardians back in  2011 – just a random thought I had about how adoption has prospective parents create these elaborate glossy selling themselves brochures with a “Dear Birthmother Letter”.  How little there is to really tell the expectant mother considering adoption – who the prospective adoptive parents really are – and things I would consider before choosing a guardian if I had a child.

 

The automatic defensive response by some adoptive parents when bad adoption stories hit the news…

Just a short post to speak to the automatic defensive response I have read by some adoptive parents regarding the Reuters/NBC series on “Rehoming”.  Why don’t they include stories about all the successful adoptions and good adoptive parents?  It makes us all look bad! 

 

Finding a home for a child vs Finding a child for a home, two different mindsets…

By TAO

Of all the different aspects of the case about Veronica Brown – the one question I can’t find an answer for: Why would adoptive parents be willing to, or want to, adopt a child whose parent did not want that child adopted?  Because that would be a forced adoption, not a voluntary adoption, and I thought we were past all that, at least, that is what everyone proudly proclaims.

 

Posts I enjoyed…

By TAO

I haven’t done a link post for awhile so here are a few I read and enjoyed lately, they made me think.

Amanda at “After All, it’s a small world” has a post that speaks about Mothers in Africa, and why the western perceptions don’t work.  From her about page:

“I am Amanda. My husband, “BB” and son, Freddy recently moved to Kigali, Rwanda after spending 13 lovely years in Chicago.  I am an attorney, and I am working as a legal fellow for International Justice Mission.

I started this blog to chronicle our adoption journey.  We attempted to adopt three children from the Democratic Republic of the Congo. After learning that the documents had been falsified to support the adoption, the adoption has been terminated.”

I would encourage you to read more than just this post, because it’s all good.  The post I am linking to is simply called Mothers

Next up is from “Wacky Adorable Family“, who is an adoptive parent, but also identifies her blog as “liberal tree-hugger rants“…  She is Cherokee and her post speaks to what is missing in the mainstream conversation about Baby Veronica

The author of “Somebody’s Children” Dr. Laura Briggs has a new post up that also brings different thoughts to the same case.  Baby Veronica, Again: Still a Feminist Issue 

And from Reluctant Xian “Jesus Wouldn’t Like That…” and “What Would Jesus Do” Shouldn’t Be Uttered Anymore that has nothing to do with adoption, and yet he touches on points at the end that run parallel with the same topic Amanda does in her post. 

Hope you all are having a wonderful and safe long weekend.