Convoluted thoughts and a Ted Talk…

26 Aug


Hopefully the title has warned you that my thoughts are all over the place. Below is one of the Ted Talks I listened to today…

While you listen to the talk given in Wellington, New Zealand by a member of OXFAM, think about how adoption is consumer driven, although a much more arduous process then simply a trip to the grocery store, prospective  and adoptive parents are the consumers in adoption.  They (the AP’s) hold the power to make the adoption agencies change their practices when found to be questionable ethically.  They make the choice of who they take their business too, and, what they require the process to be.  They also have the ability to speak up, or not.  Their voices have more power to effect change, than any other voice in the adoption community.

Now think back to when Kathryn Joyce’s book “The Child Catchers” came out, and the predominant voices in the adoption industry quickly tried to quiet the storm, using words like “Attack”, “Hatchet Job”, “Criticism” and how we must not let a “few” bad adoptions/actors color our views.  That sure, “Ethics” are important and we can always improve, and we will.  Did they, is the question.  Have you seen them self-police?  Investigate?  Call people out?  Make changes?  Put ethics to the front of the line?  You decide whether or not the concerns raised were heard and how things have changed…

A Conference for such a time as this…

The brave AP’s who raised their voices were largely ignored.  Those who knew first hand that there were things were being done terribly wrong.  I give them such high marks because they tried, they kept trying, but, the subject is too scary, and unsettling, and others just wanted it to all go away.  Instead of joining forces talked about on the TED talk, and using the same consumer pressure that was successful in making large food companies start to change the way they did business, they let the wave of awareness wash away like it had never happened.  Today, it appears life is pretty much back to the way it was before Kathryn Joyce’s book came out.  How sad when you think about it, because if enough AP’s had raised their voices in unison, then perhaps we would be seeing a race to the top too.  I would love to be proven wrong so feel free to send me links to posts from adoption agencies, and industry leaders, proudly proclaiming they are reclaiming the practice of ethics first in adoption…


Posted by on August 26, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child, Ethics


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5 responses to “Convoluted thoughts and a Ted Talk…

  1. eagoodlife

    August 26, 2013 at 10:51 pm

    Reblogged this on The Life Of Von and commented:
    So what has really changed to make adoption ethical? Where are the demands from adopters and prospective adopters for change, an end to corruption, trafficking, child stealing?


  2. lara/trace

    August 26, 2013 at 11:34 pm

    Reblogged this on what we discovered and commented:
    what are you going to do?


  3. Brent Snavely

    August 26, 2013 at 11:52 pm

    I fear that an “Adoption Code of Ethics”, if developed under frameworks of either “saving those poor children” or of “having a child of our own”, will merely legitimate: 1) social structures that place females in a subaltern position as sex objections/brood hens; 2) the commodification of infants so as to make them “marketable” to those of relative wealth; and, 3) the self-assumed arrogance of APs to either “save” or “make that child ours”.

    A good start at correcting errors associated with adoption might simply be to remove all financial incentives and eliminate all the skimming that takes place at each step of “the adoption process”.
    Whether one might wanna save those poor children or have a child of their own, they should do all the work themselves and be present at each intersection of the personal and power relationships that led to children’s being born into circumstances where the mother is unable/unwilling to raise the child (and where, exactly, is that Dear Old Dad?)…


  4. Lucy Sheen aka 4gottenadoptee

    August 27, 2013 at 5:44 am

    Reblogged this on 4gottenadoptee and commented:
    Has adoption ever been considered or executed on”ethical” grounds?


  5. b.

    August 27, 2013 at 12:18 pm

    Hat dies auf International Adoption Reader rebloggt und kommentierte:
    Add your thoughts here… (optional)



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