I recorded the episode of “Who Do You Think You Are?” that told the story of Chris O’Donnell tracing his paternal ancestors. I watched the episode this morning, sipping my coffee in the pre-dawn hours (yes, hours), while waking up to what would be another beautiful August morning. His story was fascinating and he said something similar to “the need for connection” to his ancestors, that is what I have always felt, that wasn’t within mom and dads power to give me. Why I have spent countless hours researching my ancestors on Ancestry. I do find it ironic that Ancestry is linked somehow to LDS, and they focus so much on family lines, yet at the same time seem to glorify and celebrate the severing of family lines for adoptees, and, if you look at the state of Utah with their restrictive laws for adoptees…but I will stop myself here instead of ranting further because I am getting off topic, again…
Getting back to “the need for connection“…
I was reading Cassi’s post today, which is Part Two from yesterday, and read the paragraphs quoted below, and then came back here to write this post – because it really is what this whole saga regarding Veronica is all about. She doesn’t need adoption, and her connection to her family severed.
(words below from Cassi’s post linked at the end)
“I see this picture and I know she is right where she belongs, where she has always belonged.
Veronica has a chance so many other children, who get caught up in this world of adoption, are denied. She has it all there before her . . . a family that loves and cherishes her. That will always understand her strange quirks, her unexplainable likes and dislikes.
She can look at her dad, her older sister, her grandparents, and see herself. She can share the customs that are unique to her own family. Can always know, good or bad, crazy or sane, the family she is surrounded by is hers by the strongest bond of all. Because they share what can never be broken by any law, any court . . . the reality of who they are by the past of those who are a part of them.”
Cassi writes from the heart, and has the gift of crafting her words to not just be read, and heard, but to be felt. There are more heartfelt emotions to read further in the post. You can find Part One if you haven’t already read it, on the right hand sidebar of her blog.