Several times in the past few weeks the following question has popped into my head:
Is acceptance of what life throws at us easier for adoptees because we are adopted? Simply because we learned at an early age that we will never know our family of birth, never know answers to so many questions, never know who we were born to be?
Which is followed closely by:
Am I just assuming some/most/all adoptees are like me in accepting what life throws my way? Which is quite likely, but, perhaps true, at least until we are much older and wiser, or finally, a law is changed that would allow us to finally have a real opportunity to make the decision whether to take steps to answer those questions, or, not take the steps.
Or, is it simply because of my personality, how I was raised to not expect to get everything I wanted, and the hits I have taken in my life that proved that to me, which allows me to accept whatever it is that isn’t going to happen…
So, I am throwing it out for discussion if anyone else is interested.
Are adoptees (specifically closed adoptions) by the very nature of being adopted, and learning very early in life that we just have to accept that things we might want won’t happen, better able to accept as adults the hits life throws our way – than the general population of non-adopted…