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Everyone leaves…

By TAO

When I started dating as a teen, I found that the very moment the boy started caring about me, my emotions turned to ice.  We were done.  There were more than a few relationships in my teens that started out fine, and ended with the guy completely confused, because all he had done was tell me that he cared. Read the rest of this entry »

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Posted by on July 31, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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It’s so reassuring – or not…

By TAO

A couple of days ago I made chocolate chip cookies, hubs favorite cookie, providing I make it from his mom’s recipe.  Never mind that the recipe is pretty much identical to every other chocolate chip cookie recipe – they taste better if I follow the handwritten recipe his mom sent him before she passed away.  So I use that recipe because I understand they taste better because of that memory of being a child eating chocolate chip cookies his mom had just made.

So where am I going with this touching story you may be thinking… Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on July 29, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, Ethics

 

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Coincidences happen every single day…

By TAO

This story out of Calgary is yet another prime example of the foolishness of sealed records and how unnecessary they are.  Read the story and then ask yourself what if they had been brother and sister instead of brothers, and they had started dating… Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on July 27, 2013 in Adoption, Ethics

 

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Discussions within the adoption community this week…

By TAO

…and because this topic hits me on a very deep level, consider this a forewarning that there are a few snarky comments included in parenthesis.  If you don’t want snark then don’t click through to read it. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on July 20, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child, Ethics

 

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It’s time to start the conversation…

By TAO

Whenever there is a post, or article, that speaks to anything other than being a “positive adoption story” many in adoption community get upset.  It seems as if the mindset or requirement is that: Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on July 15, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child, Ethics

 

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Parenting after adoption for mothers…

By TAO

After I found out that my mother had already passed away, and had found my relatives – I heard bits and pieces that my mother had been a very stern, and exacting mother, but the exact opposite as a grandmother.  No one who was in her life seemed to make any correlation between loosing me, and how she parented her kept children, or why her true loving nature came out with her grandchildren. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on July 13, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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Wow, I would never have known…

By TAO

I met new people at class yesterday, and we talked individually back and forth, and the response I received several times was some version of “wow, you look great” or “I would never have guessed that you had that happen to you”.   I also had my hair cut by a new stylist taking over for my old one (thankfully she is good because I went for a completely different style) and we chatted, and I had to explain, and the same “I would never have known looking at you” type of response happened. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on July 10, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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To me – this isn’t an analogy I would ever use…

By TAO

Because I have seen an uptick in this particular analogy…

Just a note to all the people I have seen recently trying to prove that parents can love their adopted children the same as their biological children – and that adopted children can love their adopted parents as much as they would biological parents – because spouses can deeply love their non-biological spouses…

Yuck, yuck, and just yuck…

Lets just skip that analogy please….

 
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Posted by on July 7, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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