Hopefully this makes sense: Something I have pondered is how “adoption” is viewed by different groups found in the adoption community. I understand that not all defined by a specific group will view “adoption” the same, and not what I mean to imply. Rather how a group may typically view “adoption” through their role / lens.
Personally, I view “adoption” or “being adopted” as a combination of both events. The first event that must happen, the surrender, and the second event, the adoption, as my adoption experience. I don’t separate the two events: surrender happens with the expectation of the babe being adopted; adoption cannot happen without the surrender. The reality is that I was party to both events, and both events without the other would not have happened. Basically that both sides of the equation are one continuous event to me.
I’m interested to hear from adoptees and both set of parents in the adoption community how they see it. I understand I have made the above very simple, and I didn’t include foster care, or international scenarios, because far too many examples would have to be given – but I think although different reasons why the babe needs a home exist both processes must occur. It’s whether you view the events separately, or, as both must happen (cause and effect) so ultimately one event.