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Why does it keep happening?

30 Apr

By TAO

I decided to not post about the adoptive mother in the UK story I read yesterday, which to me is so wrong as to make one assume it was fictional – except for the courts conviction.  Obviously, the wrong way to get a baby to adopt…

But then I go to WordPress Reader and under the tag adoption what pops up – yet another horror story.

New Jersey Couple Indicted On Charges Of ‘Unimaginable Cruelty’ Toward Adopted Children

MOUNT HOLLY, NJ (CBS) – A United States Army major and his wife are facing charges for the alleged abuse of their three adopted children, including one who died in May 2008.

From about August 2005 until April 23, 2010, Carolyn Jackson, 35, and John E. Jackson, 37, formerly of the Picatinny Arsenal Installation in Morris County, NJ reportedly abused the three juveniles by breaking their bones, denying them medical attention and withholding water and force-feeding them hot sauce. (read more at the link above)

Obviously, there must be problem with how prospective adoptive parents are being screened by some homestudy or some adoption providers.  I honestly don’t care how “rare” this is in adoption.  It isn’t just “one” story, or, “one” child.  It is a problem that must be addressed, talked about, recognised that adoptive parents should never automatically be given a pass by those around them, simply, because they passed a homestudy or were approved to adopt.

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Posted by on April 30, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child, Ethics

 

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6 responses to “Why does it keep happening?

  1. momsomniac

    April 30, 2013 at 6:24 pm

    I believe that all of the screening relies on a few home visits and self-reporting. Ours did.
    It’s absurd.

    As both a bio and adoptive parent, I feel I have room to say with conviction that though few people would want to live in the fascist world that would be created by having to be pre-approved to have bio-kids, adoption is different. It has to be. I don’t know how to say it better – but a child is changing hands – and there should be intensive and downright invasive scrutiny of one’s ability to bond with and care for that child.

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    • TAO

      April 30, 2013 at 6:33 pm

      Mom – I just want it to stop. The cases that we are seeing today are horrifying – how can they not know what they are doing is wrong? It isn’t a parent freaking out when a toddler runs into the street and narrowly misses being hit by a car, and receives a slap on the bum from the terrified mom. The cases are deliberate, methodical…just horrifying…. No way it is ever able to be justified. Still waiting to hear the verdict in the Hana Williams trial. NO REASON this mindset can’t be figured out at the homestudy phase NONE.

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      • momsomniac

        April 30, 2013 at 6:40 pm

        amen to that

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        • momsomniac

          April 30, 2013 at 6:42 pm

          …and that’s the thing about trusting self reporting…what twisted sociopath is going volunteer that about themselves?

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  2. franwhelan60

    May 1, 2013 at 8:01 am

    Can somebody please post a link to the UK story please as it hasn’t been covered on our tv news and I don’t read the newspapers.

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    • TAO

      May 1, 2013 at 3:01 pm

      fran – the link is the orange title – just click on it.

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