(note that no one is making you read this – and if it doesn’t apply to you then you’re good…)
I’m tired of seeing trite phrases like “all children deserve forever families” and in the next minute I see an “adoption dissolution” happening. Why not just stick with “all children deserve families” and call it a day?
I’m tired of the “cute” adoption sayings that people retweet, or share, or comment on that either include “rescue” or dismiss the “biological” connection. Not the best way to get the public to see adoption as valid.
I’m tired of people seeing the lack of adoptable babies as a crisis, or something to be upset about and work towards finding a way to get more babies in need of families.
I’m tired of seeing advertisements proclaiming it is selfless to give your baby up for adoption.
I’m tired of seeing contested adoption cases where prospective want to be parents fight the father who wants to parent HIS child.
And today, I’m especially tired of adoptive parents feeling left out…
“Adoptive parents are feeling overlooked and demonised in the wake of the national apology for forced adoption policies of the 1950s, ’60s and ’70s. And many feel that their role as parents—spending decades of their lives raising children as their own—has been devalued at the expense of focusing on the loss experienced by birth mothers.”
Seriously? You think the Australian National Apology left you out? Did any of the following happen to you? Shipped away, shamed, shunned, called unspeakable names, disowned by your families, treated badly, strapped to your bed for labor, drugged, sheets hung so you couldn’t see your babe, not allowed to hold or raise your babe, sent home to grieve without support, knew nothing about whether your child was alive, dead, happy, sad, healthy, sick, abused, loved, married, divorced, for literally decades and many still without answers…
No? Then you weren’t left out because it wasn’t about you.
and the title on the 1.30 minute radio program: “Are Adoptive Parents the Forgotten Ones“
Not everything about adoption has to be focused on the wants and needs of adoptive parents…
PS. You can find the Australian National Apology Link in this post if you haven’t already read it.