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Why does it keep happening?

By TAO

I decided to not post about the adoptive mother in the UK story I read yesterday, which to me is so wrong as to make one assume it was fictional – except for the courts conviction.  Obviously, the wrong way to get a baby to adopt…

But then I go to WordPress Reader and under the tag adoption what pops up – yet another horror story. Read the rest of this entry »

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Posted by on April 30, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child, Ethics

 

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Link to a post that brings back fond memories for me…

By TAO

From Light of Day Stories Heritage and Culture Camps: Why Do They Matter? 

“One is surely the opportunity for an adopted child or teenager to be surrounded by other kids like them. Not having to explain about being adopted, or about why they look different from their parents–it’s a relief to be among others who understand.” Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on April 29, 2013 in Adoption

 

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Using “Rare” and “Most” in adoption to calm the fears…

By TAO

I have tried to read all the responses, and rebuttals, to articles published about Kathryn Joyce’s new book The Child Catchers, Rescue, Trafficking, and the New Gospel of Adoption.  They happened fast and furious with words like shameful, attack, hatchet job, and it was obvious that the book caused great consternation. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on April 27, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child, Ethics

 

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Just some random sleep deprived musings…

By TAO

I deal with insomnia – nothing seems to solve it so I watch TV quietly or read.  This morning it was TV – the Canadian show – Ancestors in the Attic – that comes up with interesting story lines, and condenses it into a half-hour.  Below is the episode I saw this morning – I am not great at recapping, and it will be choppy, but I think you will get the highlights. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on April 26, 2013 in Adoption

 

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Questions of the day…

By TAO

I have seen a lot of hand-wringing and posts pop up in rebuttal, or response to Kathryn Joyce’s article in Mother Jones. 

I just read this post about it, which includes a Q&A from various people within the Evangelical Adoption Movement…and this statement was the impetus for this post. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on April 22, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, Ethics

 

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Adoption – where Down is Up and Up is Down…

By TAO

Have you ever thought just how opposite the views in adoption are to the rest of the world? Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on April 20, 2013 in Adoption

 

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Is there an app like this one for adoptees or donor conceived?

By TAO

Some Icelanders Are Accidentally Dating a Relative and Now There’s an App for That

In Iceland, everybody is related. Okay, technically everybody everywhere is  related, but in Iceland people are way more related than they are in, say, the  United States. The population of Iceland today is about 320,000, and, accord to the genealogy website islendingabok.is, the whole  population of native Icelanders derives from a single family tree. As  the Icelandic news site News of Iceland says, that’s enough people that not  everyone knows each other, but few enough to mean that two Icelanders who are  dating might actually be cousins.

(go read the entire article)

In all seriousness, I know there isn’t an app for adoptees and donor conceived to know if they are dating one of their close relatives – but tell me it wasn’t one of your fears…

 
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Posted by on April 18, 2013 in Adoption

 

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Paul Sunderland on “Adoptees and Addiction” but talks about so much more than just that…

By TAO

Lecture by Paul Sunderland speaking about addiction and adoptees that has been around for a few years, but still relevant today.  Can not recommend this lecture enough, it makes you think, and takes you to what it is like for the babe.  He’s an engaging speaker and covers far more than addiction and talks about the trauma of relinquishment, implicit memory, wiring at birth, the last couple months of pregnancy and after birth, the stress hormones, multiple relinquishments for international adoptions, as well as foster care, as well as many other areas.  Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on April 14, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child, Ethics

 

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Good links worth the time…

By TAO

I know I have linked a lot lately, but if you haven’t read them already then you should now.

All They Will Call You Will Be Deportees by Maureen at “Light of Day Stories

Guest Post: Internationally adopted adult voices series: “Retrieving what is lost 40 years late” over at “Rileys in Uganda

More STUCK Conversation over at “I Will Pull This Blog Over!” with first post on STUCK here and the second here.

Hope you are all having a wonderful weekend…and would like to hear what you think or what you are up to.

 
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Posted by on April 13, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, Ethics

 

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Another sad story…

By TAO

I also read this article yesterday…

Recognising Switzerland’s “slave children”

It appears that it was about children farmed out, and unwed mothers detained that sometimes included sterilization and their babies placed for adoption.

Some very haunting black and white photographs of children.

You can’t change the past – but you can learn from it.  If you don’t recognise that it happened, then you won’t learn from it.

 
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Posted by on April 10, 2013 in Adoption

 

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Just a wee bit snarky today…

By TAO

(note that no one is making you read this – and if it doesn’t apply to you then you’re good…)

I’m tired… Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on April 9, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Supply vs Demand and how the narrative of confidentiality changed…

By TAO

Trying to combine two different points in this post and hopefully it works.  My post Adoption History talked about the 1955 Senate Subcommittee hearings on interstate adoption specifically Florida and baby selling (their words).  In Senator Kafauver’s opening statement he noted there were 90,000 adoptions each year in the US. and then (bolding mine): Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on April 6, 2013 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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