Change in some of the Utah laws and yet another case…

Utah lawmakers tweak Utah adoption laws – I’m a little behind in posting this and when I read it this morning I wasn’t going to bother, yet here I am because I don’t know whether to be angry, or bemused that it is 2013 and just now this is being added…

 

Another article that misses the mark

Adopted teens seeking out their birth parents through social media: Is it safe?

First up in the story is Sarah Bryce who later in the article states she was born and adopted in 1978 which puts her in her thirties…

 

The problem of how an “adoption issue” is viewed by some…

By TAO

Other children do the almost the same thing so it’s not an “adoption issue”…

So if other children go through a stage are they having a “biological issue” is the retort I say in my mind, and just shake my head in wonder at the denial about being adopted.

The problem is that “issue” has become something to deny happens – because adoption is win-win-win so there can’t be “issues”…and if there are “issues” something is wrong with the child, so then it still isn’t about adoption.

 

Link to post on the Australian Apology and of course my thoughts…

By TAO

Well written post by Deanna Shrodes at “Adoptee Restoration” today.  The author is an adoptee from the BSE, like myself, like millions of other adoptees.  Her voice is different from my voice.  Even though our voices are different, many of the underlying themes are the same.  Understand history – not the white-washed history fed to you by the adoption industry – the real history of Adoption that Australia has now publicly recognised and apologised for. That underneath many of the stories of our adoptions is a world of hurt, pain, anguish – regardless of which country we are from because it happened on different levels in most developed countries – not just Australia.

 

My thoughts on adoption being the second-best option…

By TAO

I see many people still have their knickers-in-a-knot over the statement by Eastman about adoption is second-best (see the link at the end). Why? is the question I have asked myself – because as I break it down in my head – adoption is the second-best choice for a babe. The word best after second means just that, if a babe (or child) cannot stay within their natal family, the next best option is another family for the child. While I struggle with how adoption is now set up with sealed records practices, the current way some agencies (etc) try to persuade women to surrender and the tactics used, the unenforceable open-adoption carrot – at the end of the day – having a family is very important for those who truly need adoption.

 

Positive and Negative Connotations…

By TAO

Someone much wiser than I, explained the problem with saying to an adoptee that they should be grateful they were adopted. I have always had problems explaining just why that statement sticks in my craw, and I know it bothers other too.

 

Good for her: part two…

By TAO

Remember this post back in February?

Widow Owes Rejected Adopted Daughter Millions, Court Rules

Adopted in 1996 from China as a baby, the father passes away in 1997, in 2004 the widow found another couple who wanted to adopt her.

Go read the story…

Well apparently that wasn’t the full story, there was more that happened in between…

 

Trick question if you are adopted…

By TAO

So the other day I went to get some stuff accomplished that I had put off till the very last-minute (I’m great at procrastination), I rushed in, grabbed the form, and sat down at the cubicle and started filling it in.

 

Assigning blame…

By TAO

We all have our own biases when it comes to assigning credibility, or blame based on how we view actions taken in life by other people.  It is something I have thought about lately, not just about what this post is about, but in other areas of life as well.  This morning I was thinking about how justifications, and denial are used within the adoption community, specifically with mothers who speak out about their treatment by an agency.