Ted Talks that seem right…

20 Nov


Two talks from Ted but seem so right on an adoption blog.  I am sure there are many marketers working hard in the background to hype adoption as the solution to everyone’s problems…the most visible is of course calling an expectant mother a birthmother (one word)…but there is so much more…

Rory Sutherland: Life lessons from an ad man

“Advertising adds value to a product by changing our perception, rather than the product itself. Rory Sutherland makes the daring assertion that a change in perceived value can be just as satisfying as what we consider “real” value — and his conclusion has interesting consequences for how we look at life.

Rory Sutherland stands at the center of an advertising revolution in brand identities, designing cutting-edge, interactive campaigns that blur the line between ad and entertainment.”


The second Ted talk that strikes me as right…

Dan Ariely asks, Are we in control of our own decisions?

“Behavioral economist Dan Ariely, the author of Predictably Irrational, uses classic visual illusions and his own counterintuitive (and sometimes shocking) research findings to show how we’re not as rational as we think when we make decisions.

It’s become increasingly obvious that the dismal science of economics is not as firmly grounded in actual behavior as was once supposed. In “Predictably Irrational,” Dan Ariely tells us why.”


I’ve spent my free time today working on my [adoptive] dads’ family tree.  I had a duplicate entry, and stupidly deleted the wrong one – not the duplicate – but the one that also deleted all the ancestors and sources.  Joy.  Good news is I am back to the early 1600’s again, and also took the time to refresh my knowledge of his ancestors who first came to the Colonies and the road they had to travel to just eek out a life.  Knowing the type of people they had to be to survive and carry on – I see dad in them because that was the type of person he was as well.

Every single time I work on any of my trees – it reminds me that so many adoptees  have no ability to do that – to know the road travelled by those who went before.  Donor conceived face the same struggle as adoptees, and yet the industry keeps creating more and more without giving a damn what the donor conceived will face.  It is all so very wrong, and no one seems to care, or if they do speak up they are shot down.  People are so desperate to get what they want – they forget they are choosing to go forward knowing their children – will be denied the right to know where they come from, and they may want that very much as well.  Seems so very ignorant.


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2 responses to “Ted Talks that seem right…

  1. Fran Whelan

    November 21, 2012 at 1:12 pm

    Researching my adoptive parents and then my own birth parent family tree has made me realise how lucky I am, and how it’s only in recent times that adoption has been so closed. Fans of the TV series Downton Abbey will know there is a story there where a housemaid’s child is adopted, and she is then encouraged to take a position close to the adoptive parents so she can interact with her child (all be it in the guise of a former Nanny). My own MIL was born out of wedlock and raised by her Mother with help from the family of her Father (she would go to his house and play with his children after school while her Mother was cleaning for Laurence Olivier’s family). My birth father was born out of wedlock, but raised by his Mother.


  2. shannon2818

    November 21, 2012 at 1:40 pm

    It’s true that so many of us just focus on our own (supposed) needs and fears. In adoption it seems that the children’s needs are given the least amount of weight.



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