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Just in case you missed it: Article by Claudia Corrigan D’Arcy at NYT

31 Oct

Posted by TAO

Why Not a Credit for Birth Mothers?

Right now there are 100 comments.  As expected the words in the article suddenly morph into other words in the comments.  From the first paragraph “Often the reality is that mothers who surrender their children do so because of a lack of support.”

“Often” morphs into “Most” or “All” in the comments…

Where she identifies this is about private domestic adoptions and the mothers who place because of financial reasons which are often temporary – it morphs into other types of adoptions and other reasons mothers chose adoption, which is not the point of the discussion.

Read the article – pay attention to how she frames the sentences…and the words she chose.  Some of the comments have no reality with what the article said, some are protective of their place in adoption, some are just overly biased.

But it is tackling the subject of why is there an Adoption Tax Credit (or refundable tax credit) from the tax payers for a private domestic adoption, instead of the government working to keep a family together – especially when the original ATC was intended for promoting adoption for children in state care.

I just wish people could listen to the words used – when they read something.  And while reading it, ask yourself if a child should become an adoptee simply because of temporary financial reasons?  We have to remember that when adoption happens the child has lost their entire family, and that is tragic and should be the last resort.

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5 responses to “Just in case you missed it: Article by Claudia Corrigan D’Arcy at NYT

  1. shadowtheadoptee

    October 31, 2012 at 3:18 pm

    Claudia is my hero. did you see the article in the NYTime yesteerday about extending the tax credit, which, possibly, triggered this?

    So, someone explain to me exactly why is adoption sooooo expensive? Wouldn’t you like to know “exactly” where each, and every, penny goes? Back in the day of my adoption, they didn’t call it fees and expenses. They called it a “donation”. The only “fees” were the actual lawyer fees, complete with a bill from the, actual, lawyer. A tax credit wasn’t necessary, or even a concept to my APs, and they were , certainly, not in the $100,000 salary range. I wonder if, by today’s standards, they could have “afforded” to adopt.

    Just brain farting so take it for what it is.

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    • TAO

      October 31, 2012 at 3:43 pm

      Hey – Shadow…

      You know I once did a search on adoption costs over the years and what it boiled down to was the cost of a new family car give or take a few dollars. It is does average out to be that.

      What is different today that isn’t part of the adoption fees is the “birth” mother expenses paid by prospective adoptive parents which started becoming norm in the 90’s as states changed the allows to allow it – before those expenses were paid for by the “birth” family of women who went to a maternity home as the price to ensure no one in the families home community would find out. Once that shame factor was removed families weren’t willing to pay and mothers were keeping their babies so the industry needed to find a carrot – poof – expenses paid because many can’t work in the later months of pregnancy – either their own reasons or their jobs prevent it….which may be one of the reasons they first start considering adoption – lack of financial resources.

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  2. momsomniac

    October 31, 2012 at 3:57 pm

    I am in favor of the tax credit…only because it allows more who can look at the birth mother’s story and think “that could have been me” to adopt. It helps remove the superior attitude that comes with entitlement.

    Of course, if the *only* reason a child is being placed for adoption is financial, then there needs to be another solution. Mothers who want to have and keep their babies should be able to do so. Ideally, lack of familial support could be removed from the decision too, but that can get tricky in complex circumstances. The defensiveness, in general, continues to confound me. The truth rarely comes rolled in sugar.

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    • TAO

      October 31, 2012 at 4:13 pm

      I believe that is what Claudia was saying though is that for some / many (?) that is the primary reason.

      Canada – you cannot be laid off because you are pregnant – no matter what method they try. In addition to the standard safety nets, mothers get a year off work for maternity leave which is paid for by unemployment. Your job is also secure while you are off so you have a job to go back to. There is universal health care without co-pays – the province I live in does require a monthly fee which is less than my TV cable bill as the top of a means tested scale. Prescription drugs are paid by pharmacare which is means tested and has a deductible / amount you must pay at the beginning of the year and then once that is reached the costs are paid (how I understand it). There is also a baby bonus paid out each month (not clear on requirements) and many / most provinces also subsidize low-income day care. Private domestic adoptions in Canada are relatively rare which makes it appear that those measures are family preservation measures. Australia also has similar measures and again, private domestic adoption is relatively rare. I do believe some don’t want to parent, etc., and would be those mothers that fall into the relatively rare category. (not talking about those with drug problems / abusive situations)

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      • momsomniac

        October 31, 2012 at 4:19 pm

        I think she is probably right. C’s birth story is so very complex, and I imagine it’s not entirely uncommon either (and of course, that’s all I’ll say here), but yes, in most cases, that’s probably so.

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