Must read post link…

16 Sep

Lorraine at First Mother Forum has a great post up on semi-open adoptions and the real risk to both parties to adoption.  That the risk of semi-open can abruptly be closed due to agency closures.  It’s a topic that does not get talked about enough – what happens if an agency closes its doors and the communication between parties is facilitated by the agency only.

When an agency promises ‘semi-open’ adoption, look elsewhere

Please read the post and then start a conversation within your circle – both sides are affected and at the end of the day the child also loses.  The post also highlights how one small agency Abrazio stepped up to the plate to do whatever they could to keep those communications happening when ASA closed the doors in Texas, and has details and quotes from a conversation between Lorraine and that agencies director.  Please go read that post now

Agencies have closed all over the states in the last few years.  I can’t find statistics, because like any statistics in adoption, they are limited and scarce.  The problem is further complicated by each state licensing adoption agencies – instead of federal.  Even the biggest adoption agencies that have been around for decades are in trouble, and just last summer Children’s Home Society and Lutheran Social Services of Minnesota merged.  Included in that article is this mention that should make everyone take notice “The merger is among dozens occurring across Minnesota as nonprofits struggle with the economic downturn”.

My hope is that the adoptive parent community starts challenging the industry to set up some protections and rules, and that each parent asks their agency what happens if they close the door.  Your child’s records are held there.  Agencies have set themselves up as the middle man/conduit and if that is broken, like it has for so many others – how will it affect your child and you.

Did you read Lorraine’s post?  I hope so.

For further info on the ASA closure this article may help make you even madder that no thought has been put into safe-guarding all the parties to adoption.  Lawsuits claim adoption agency did not intend to deliver.

Update 16 Sep 2012: Amanda at The Declassified Adoptee and Claud at Musings of the Lame have each posted about this situation.  Go read these posts to and consider speaking up

Amanda’sWill Texas Legislators Stand by While the Human Rights of 5,000 Children go Unaddressed?

Claud’sAdoption Services Associates Goes Bad, Abrazo Adoption Associates Does Good


Posted by on September 16, 2012 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child, Ethics


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2 responses to “Must read post link…

  1. Valentine Logar

    September 18, 2012 at 9:44 am

    I will need to think about all the different sides. ASA clearly is a horrifying story, for all involved. But I am not at all certain I am in agreement that all adoptions should be open all the time. I do think children need as much information as possible, but there are times when it is simply better for all involved that privacy and no contact is preserved until children reach maturity.


  2. TAO

    September 18, 2012 at 2:56 pm

    Velentine – I didn’t hear all adoptions should be open all the time but perhaps I missed that statement which is entirely possible with my brain. The obvious reason for not open would be safety etc. But when it is domestic voluntary infant adoption and there are no concerns (i.e. the agency would be aware of them) and they agreed to it – then I have no issues as long as education and support to establish the relationship and parameters so it gets off on the right foot.

    This case though was simply non-identifying updates which is almost or actually closed. So many agencies go under and the records go to the dusty archives of the state if no other provisions exist, or the agency just slams the door without alerting the federal oversight. There are many that do close that make arrangements with another agency to take over – that is the ethical, moral, and right thing to do. Slamming the door and leaving your records in such a mess that you can’t even match up BP to child to AP is beyond ignorant. That is what makes me see red. Reminds me of a story from NJ Catholic Charities where there were six infants that could of been the right adoptee…only uncovered/admitted to after the reunion (think faciliated by CC) and a dna test proved no relationship.



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