A variety of links…

24 Jun

Found a new blog written by a social worker in Belgium who now works in adoption aftercare, who was asked by an English-speaking adoptee to translate some of the posts into English.  You can read about the author of Adoption Coach here.  I read the posts already translated with interest, and am linking to the first post on the blog and hope you read it – at the end of the post is a poem written by Lut Celie called “Listen” it really says it all, and hopefully speaks to some who wish to tell adoptees how they should feel.

Damian Adams at “Donated Generationposts Caroline Lorbach and myself have just had a paper published in a special edition of the Journal of Law and Medicine which focuses on donor conception here in Australia.” that post includes the abstract and link to publication.  He also did a short post a while back that I intended to link to but forgot A Story to Help People Understand.

I took a look at the special edition of the Journal of Law and Medicine on donor conception in Australia and there are many articles I wish I could read, one abstract in particular caught my eye and adoptees will understand why – it seems that the same argument used against adoptee rights (mothers were promised confidentiality but the adoption industry cannot provide a written promise) may also problematic in the fertility industry – they may not be able to provide proof. “Keeping mum about dad: “Contracts” to protect gamete donor anonymity – Anne Rees” “This article considers the legal status of so-called contracts for anonymity between fertility clinics and donors of gametes that were made in the period before legislation authorising disclosure. […] The writer has not been able to locate examples of written promises by the clinics promising anonymity. There are written promises by the donors not to seek the identity of the recipients. These promises do not bind the resulting offspring nor do they appear to be supported by consideration.”

Australian Government to Apologise Over Forced Adoptions “The Australian Government today announced it will issue a formal apology to those affected by forced adoption practices.”

A very interesting post by Alama ya Kitumaini “Sign of Hope” urging caution and providing questions to ask if you are adopting in the DRC.  Good post and discussion – but of course, in the comments is the question why once AP’s have their children home do they suddenly become concerned with ethics.  It’s a method of trying to shut down the conversation and has such an obvious answer – they too were naive going into adoption and trusted their agencies – only to figure things out when it was too late or worse when their child could speak enough English to explain they weren’t orphans!  That question always makes me think about AP’s who state that their children are happy and won’t be like us adult adoptees who criticize adoption.  Speaking of which – someone did a post last week linking to a blog post on fundraising written by Shadow, and then identified that Shadow had a lot of criticisms about adoption – no, Shadow is the nice one, again, I am the one who will criticize HOW adoption is practiced – which is different from criticizing an adoption when it is the done properly – after family preservation efforts have failed.  I am honestly amazed that people still cannot see the difference between hating all things adoption and talking about problems within the adoption industry.  Adoption can be done ethically by protecting the rights of all and most of all the child and is a solution in some cases – I don’t disagree with that – it is the probalematic practices that drive me batty – but they do need to fix the laws for adoptee rights to our own original birth certificate in every single closed records state.

What posts did you read this week? 


Posted by on June 24, 2012 in Adoption, adoptive parents, Ethics


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4 responses to “A variety of links…

  1. damianhadams

    September 17, 2012 at 12:22 am

    Hi Tao, sorry for spotting this so late. The Rees paper on Keeping Mum about Dad basically states that from the available evidence there is no contractual or promise to prevent seeking information about their biological father. The contracts/promises are only between the donor and recipient parents not to seek out information about each other. Additionally Rees also questions the validity of these so called contracts and suggests that they may actually fail the contractual test.
    It would certainly be interesting to see the paperwork for adoption to see how this compares.
    Best wishes


    • TAO

      September 17, 2012 at 12:43 am

      In my state there was no promise of privacy or anonymity (sp?) for the mother. I have my surrender paperwork where my mother voluntarily relinquished any and all parental rights granted to her over her child to the state before the judge. Nothing about sealing the records – nothing about no contact. Nothing written into the adoption act either. A professor (law?) – think her name is Elizabeth Samuels has done a study on paperwork mothers were given by agencies (my mother went through the state (rural area)) and she has not been able to identify any papers that guaranteed the mothers privacy – nor has any adoption agency been able to produce them.

      A contract needs three things if I remember correctly – with the main criteria being a meeting of the minds between the parties, the other two I think are sale and consideration. My guess is that the meeting of the minds fails – it is only a disclaimer document to protect the business.

      How was your paper received? Did it make anyone think or have you not received feedback.


      • damianhadams

        September 17, 2012 at 12:56 am

        Thanks for that. Once again sounds like the institutions are hiding behind something that they fail to show exists, and everyone else believes their story and tows the line. One legal problem is promissory estoppel which some may try and use in the case of a verbal or implied contract/promise.


  2. marilynn

    January 3, 2014 at 7:30 am

    Love this post and anything on the legalities of these arrangements



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