I have no idea who would even consider watching any of those reality shows (whatever the title) about mothers choosing to terminate their parental rights or parent. I have no idea why anyone would be supportive of this type show, or promote it to others.
It is manipulative at best and coercive at worst to the mother.
What strikes me most though is the invasion of privacy for the adoptee, and if I am being completely honest, humiliating. It is one thing to have pictures of arriving home to your new family, it is whole other kettle of fish to have the video of your surrender and everything leading up to it, shown on TV and forever available to any and all for their viewing. It was hard enough for me as a mature adult to read my surrender court document of my mother giving me up – I cannot imagine watching it on TV and having friends whose parents watched it as well, because you know it will come out. Unbelievable.
When the Time cover last week showed a mother breastfeeding a 3-year-old the outcry was intense – that picture will follow that boy throughout his life. He will be teased and bullied in school. He will be so embarrassed. He will be so angry his mother did that to him by allowing that picture to be taken. What about his privacy and how could he give his consent as a 3-year-old. There was such an outrage that any mother could do that to her child. Yet show a mother giving up her baby and another couple adopting – oh well isn’t that just a beautiful tear-jerker – what the hell? Does no one realize that being adopted makes you a subject for teasing, bullying, snickering, ignorant comments in school? But of course you recognise that, because that is a subject on blogs and message boards, and how horrible it is for the child and how outraged the parent is. How one (the breastfeeding picture) is oh-so wrong, and the other one (watching a mother surrender her right to parent) is oh-so-beautiful, never ceases to amaze me.
It’s all pretty hypocritical if you ask me. When it is your adoptee – they must be protected, but at the same time, you watch another adoptee exploited. If you watch the newest show (see link) – ask yourself if you are a hypocrite.
My advice – don’t watch any of these shows – just say NO.
This post announcing the newest special (with hints to be another series) is what has sparked this rant…