Father wins…

07 Mar

After reading the ruling (see link below) it appears that this father did everything he possibly could do to show he wanted to parent.  Everything.  He found out his girlfriend was pregnant in January 2010.  She signed up with an adoption agency and told him she leave Missouri for the adoption.  He filed with the Missouri Putative Father Registry in March, 2010.

She left Missouri for Texas in May 2010 and went into housing provided by her adoption agency.  In June and July he was sent documents from Texas to consent to the adoption which he did not sign.  He filed petitions for paternity and for parent-child relationship in Texas in July as well as with the Putative Fathers Registry in Illinois.  Early August 2010 he filed with the Putative Fathers Registry in Texas.

She moved to Arkansas in late July or early August 2010.  He filed with the Arkansas Putative Fathers Registry around the middle of August 2010.  She signed away her rights and consent to guardianship and adoption in Arkansas at the beginning of Sep 2010 and the baby was born the next day.

No one told him the baby had been born but within days of the birth he filed for paternity and custody of the unborn child In Arkansas.  On the same day a petition for guardianship was filed by the adoption agency stating that the parents were not married and he had not provided support and his consent wasn’t required.  The court granted the petition for guardianship the next day.  A few days later an adoption petition was filed.  Around the middle of Oct (assuming he received notice from his Putative Fathers filing), he filed a complaint of intervention and then a bit later a consolidation and moving to the correct county that was granted.

In November the appeal was heard and denied and in January 2011 the adoption was granted.  He filed two separate appeals which he obviously lost so he appealed to the Supreme Court of Arkansas who heard the case and ruled March 1, 2012.

“Accordingly, we reverse the finding that appellant’s consent is not required, vacate the decree of adoption, and remand for further proceedings consistent with this opinion.”


I get so very frustrated when fathers rights are treated like a game of cat and mouse.  The child is now 18 months old so I certainly hope this is settled very quick.  It is time for people in adoption to stop playing games like this.  If the father wants to parent it was his right to parent from the beginning.  I am sorry people think/thought otherwise.


Posted by on March 7, 2012 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child, Ethics


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7 responses to “Father wins…

  1. Real Daughter

    March 8, 2012 at 5:10 am

    It would be very interesting to see just how many adoptions involved this sort of “father-dodging”. Of course, we will never know. I think we would be shocked.


  2. jimm

    March 8, 2012 at 1:46 pm

    It’s time for the courts to start granting punitive damages to these fathers. I see a case against the mother, the State of Texas, State of Arkansas and the agency.


  3. charlotte

    March 8, 2012 at 2:08 pm

    Hes the father, let him have his child, how dare the states think that adoption is better for this child, it isn t, I am a adult adoptee, I would have given anything to have been with my biological father !!!! I also see a case against the mother, the state of texas, state of Arkansas and the agency !!


  4. shannon2818

    March 10, 2012 at 3:25 am

    What a sad story


  5. Anette Marie Frunzi Pendergrass

    April 16, 2012 at 12:20 am

    Sadly enough, this happens quite often. I personally know of a similar case except the baby was born 3 months early and the nurse had to actually deliver the baby. bio father was present, mother didn’ want baby, nurse files to adopt without father’s consent. Seems not only unethical, but illegal since the nurse used her position and knew of the father’s presence. I am sure Social Services also played a part in this. Going on 2 months, poor father cannot even find out the medical condition. He went to Children’s Hosp, but after the first day, he was asked to leave and cannot check up on him. He has a lawyer fighting for him, but nothing has been heard yet. Father has always wanted to raise child, but mother kicked him out of house and went back to a former boyfriend a month before giving birth. After the birth of the baby she kept lying to him why she wasnt checking on condition of child. After 1 week she told him she let someone else adopt the baby. Horrible to know Arkansas is not very supportive of father’s rights. However, the case above gives us hope this young dad may have a chance and his son will know his father wants and loves him.


  6. LISA

    January 21, 2013 at 6:39 pm

    Every father should have the right to stop an adoption I agree in its her body her rights to abort but when the child is born the father rights should be the same as the mothers and he shouldn’t have to go to court to prove he is fit since a mother doesn’t have to prove she is fit when she gives birth What is our government thinking by letting a mother lie that she doesnt know where the father is or lies who the father is until adoptive parents want dna YES my son son has a daughter who is being put up for adoption against his wishes and theres no help out there for him but the birth mother can lie to everyone



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