I would like to tell you the story of Julie
Julie was born back in the 1960’s and immediately surrendered for adoption and soon after she was adopted by a wonderful and loving family. She was raised with all necessities of life, as well as having the opportunity to pursue her educational dreams which included attending private school, as well as a musical education from an early age. She loved life, the yearly family vacations and any get together with extended family, and especially enjoyed Thanksgiving most of all, where they would gather around the table and eat the food dad raised and mom prepared.
Teenage years she avoided the pitfalls of getting into trouble with the police, or becoming a teenage mother. She always worked during summer vacations and learned to manage her money in her own bank account, as well as spending her time swimming and on a local softball team. Life was pretty good and eventually she married and moved away, they travelled extensively around the country, and lived in different places over the years. She had her share of good times as well as bad times, but always continued on and overcame those bad moments with the support of her family.
She has always visited her family as often as she could, kept in touch via the phone when she couldn’t visit, and considers them her family in all ways.
As she got older some medical problems started and she knew she needed to find her birth family for her health history. She talked to her mom and working together they succeeded. Julie met her birth family and enjoyed meeting them and getting to know them, relating all she had learned to her mom and dad and even ensured they met each other.
As her parents aged she was there for them as much as she could be, and after one passed away, felt a great sense of loss as well as a renewed sense of needing to care for her remaining parent.
Now I would like to tell you about Stacey
Stacey was born back in the 1960’s and was also immediately surrendered for adoption, adopted by a family and provided all necessities and opportunities to reach her goals. She enjoyed a normal life with siblings and parents who loved all their children and focused on family centered life.
As a teenager Stacey rebelled, but managed to not get caught by the police or wind up an unwed teenage mother. She always had summer jobs and moved out when she turned 18 by working full-time. After many relationships Stacey eventually married, started a new life filled with many different moves to different areas of the country, which also required finding new jobs in each location. She had some good times and some not so good ones and her first marriage ended badly.
She has made a point of maintaining contact with her family and has always kept in touch via the phone, and visited on a somewhat frequent basis, when time and accessibility permitted.
Stacey had always wanted to meet her mother and family and find out why she had been placed for adoption, as well as learn her medical history, and finally well into adulthood was able to meet them. She found she had a family that had the same values she had been raised with, and also shared many similarities with them including her personality and interests. She grew to love her birth family and enjoys their budding relationship very much.
How did each story make you feel? Do you find one a positive happy story of adoption and the other not so much? Does your role in adoption determine your reaction to the stories?
Both stories above are based on true facts, but the names used aren’t…