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Hell in a handbasket…sentenced…

16 Jun
Is anyone accountable for the kids in care?  Who approved these people to be foster parents and adopt?  How can this keep on happening – and it isn’t only Florida AP’s that hits the news…
Someone in government has to say enough – find solutions – fire whoever is not doing their job or perhaps charge them criminally – just deal with it…
I wonder if these AP’s in the story are waiting for an Adoption Tax Credit refund check…they are eligible, the adoptions happened in 2010…
Jurors find adoptive father guilty of child neglect
The prime abuser, according to the children who testified Tuesday, was his wife, Pamela Hardy, 47. She is charged with a more serious crime: aggravated child abuse. She is to be tried later.
Dwayne Hardy on Wednesday told jurors that he had never abused the children, never saw his wife abuse them and when he found out she had paddled them until they bled, told her to stop.
He acknowledged that when the 10-year-old boy and 6-year-old girl lived with them for two months before their formal adoption in February 2010, they were prohibited from using corporal punishment.
Once the children were officially part of the family, though, both parents would spank them with a wooden paddle and he sometimes used a belt, he said.
Once when he was whipping the boy with his belt, he noticed blood on it, Hardy said.
“I saw blood and stopped,” he said. “I said, ‘My belt is ruined. It has blood all over it.'”
 
More to the story by following the link above…

Update 8/2/2011: The judge sentenced Dwayne Hardy to two years and Pamela Hardy to 11 years in prison.  See article here.

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Posted by on June 16, 2011 in Adoption, Ethics

 

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10 responses to “Hell in a handbasket…sentenced…

  1. Sunday KoffronTaylor

    June 16, 2011 at 4:16 pm

    “I said, ‘My belt is ruined. It has blood all over it.’” Wow, the poor guy ruined his belt…disgusting!

    ““He stole food from the cupboard, the refrigerator and the household garbage, Hardy said. One day, the boy scooped up from the ground and put in his mouth beans that were covered with ants from a picnic-ground parking lot, Hardy said.

    That, though, didn’t mean the child was hungry, the defendant said. It meant he had the habit of eating everything in sight.” Really? He wasn’t hungry? Who approved these people to adopt? They obviously have no clue about how trauma and neglect affect children!

    “Hardy testified that his wife missed a key appointment with social workers, and as a consequence, the children lost their Medicaid benefits.” How was that not a red flag that would spark an investigation?

    The system is SO broken! We must do better for our foster children. They deserve better, we owe them better.
    And the truth is that some people are not able or equipped to be parents, whether they are natural parents or adoptive parents….their children deserve protection. Agencies need to do a much better job screening PAPs in the first place!

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    • The adopted ones

      June 16, 2011 at 4:24 pm

      Sunday (no idea why your posts are held sometimes),

      I don’t usually post these links – primarily because it happens too often but this one just made me sick…wasn’t allowed to use corporal punishment for fostering and then bait and switch to corporal punishment once the adoption was finalized – never mind the trauma they have already been through – beat it out of them – that will fix it (NOT) – nice people… These kids will never trust another adult.

      The belt was ruined comment was the final straw as to whether or not link the article. And you know that they were probably getting a monthly subsidy – greed is a powerful motivator and with a special needs diagnosis and sibling group over 2 – who knows how much it was worth to them.

      I hope they through the book at both and try them for every possible charge so that maybe, just maybe, others will think twice about it.

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  2. Dannie

    June 16, 2011 at 4:43 pm

    Oh HELL TO THE EFFING NO! That is just disgusting. There was a case here in CA in the city where I reside where the foster/adoptive mother kept her 3 adoptive girls in the closet and would spank them…..when they finally found out what was going on, they moved the girls…..my co-worker said one of the girls ended up in another city and in the classroom where her husband was the teacher. 11 year old girl was traumatized to the nth degree.

    I don’t understand these things that happen. AS for the corporal punishment statement. The reason you SIGN that is because you agree that it will NOT be a method of your parenting both now and forevermore….Have some respect for the trauma children have been through…don’t add to it “just because now you are the parent”…

    Now I’m in a mood……Hell has a special little inferno for people like these.

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  3. The adopted ones

    June 16, 2011 at 4:52 pm

    Dannie – I did not know this…and gives a modicum of hope…

    “The reason you SIGN that is because you agree that it will NOT be a method of your parenting both now and forevermore”

    but then people don’t really read what they sign do they…

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    • Dannie

      June 16, 2011 at 5:13 pm

      Unfortunately many people just sign without really thinking. Or just to get things they want. One family in my PRIDE class really struggled with whether or not they would sign because they believed that spanking was an acceptable method of discipline if done in x,y,z fashion….of course I don’t know if they ever did sign it and move forward or backed out. I myself read and re-read and before I signed, made sure in my heart that I wouldn’t use corporal punishment after the “eyes” were off (post finalization).

      Our PRIDE classes had some special time dedicated to alternate ways of discipline and we had to read 2 different books (123 magic and Love & Logic) for a look at discipline….especially since the methods had received feedback that both parents and children usually were able to stay calm or come back to calm.

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      • The adopted ones

        June 16, 2011 at 5:18 pm

        I can’t see you ever doing it – you know how to count as high as you need to go to calm down…or head to your mom and dads for helping hands. You have both brains and an conscience.

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  4. shadowtheadoptee

    June 16, 2011 at 8:09 pm

    OMG! Sick! Just sick! Do you know how long, and how hard, you have to hit someone with a belt to make them bleed? I hope they put those people away forever, and they get what they deserve in prison. My heart breaks for those kids. God bless them after what they have been through.

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  5. Jamie

    June 16, 2011 at 8:31 pm

    Thanks to these two horrible ‘parents’ (& I use this term VERY loosely), these two children will NEVER trust an adult their entire lives. Should they make it to adulthood, they’ll never trust anybody older than them. Since they said they had four biological kids (& adopted one other child) before these two, It wouldn’t surprise me if they did the same thing to them.
    It also doesn’t surprise me that these two monsters are Black. Yes, I know all races spank their kids (even White people spank their kids). But Black people support spanking more than any other ethnic group out there (w/ the possible exception of Samoans). And what’s worse? We (& I’m saying ‘we’ because I’m Black) always use the ‘it’s in the Bible’ as an excuse. Some people would say ‘women are subservient to men’ & that’s said to be in the Bible; many people choose to ignore it. People like them only pick & choose what looks good to them in the Bible & live by those. I do NOT blame these kids if they want nothing to do with God & the Bible when they’re adults. To them, God has turned his back on them since these ‘parents’ say God supports this method of discipline on children.
    In conclusion, I will finish off by saying this: Thank you Mr. & Mrs. Dwayne & Panela Hardy. Because of the two of you, two innocent children are permanently scarred (mentally, emotionally, & physically), they will never trust an adults, & they will never rely on God for anything. I hope you get the WORST sentencing there is (which would be beaten to death if I was the judge) & when you die you both get sent to the LOWEST depth of hell there is. That is the only way these two children will get TRUE justice.

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  6. Raven

    June 18, 2011 at 6:18 am

    I don’t even trust myself to be able to give a halfway coherent response to this travesty…WTF is wrong with people? Spanking (or to be more accurate, BEATING) a child until he bleeds?!!! Who the hell is vetting these foster-to-adopt parents. I’m getting so sick of all the cases being reported from all around the country of adopted children and foster kids getting beaten, raped, and murdered.

    I’m with Dannie….there is a special inferno in Hell for these creeps.

    One thing that really is bothering me lately is how many foster parents are upset WITH THE MEDIA for reporting these cases. They think it’s “unfair”…perhaps they should go live with the creeps and then tell me about what’s unfair in life.

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  7. Lori

    June 18, 2011 at 1:44 pm

    I am not even surprised. Spending time in foster care can make you seriously jaded and the response to this is….. Shoot them. Adults that adopt children, after having so many of their own, they aren’t about the child, they are about the money…. and who wants a child that eats too much or needs clothes….

    Foster children are adopted, for the most part (NOT ALL) by PAPs that couldn’t either afford to adopt privately or who had some altruistic notion about why they were adopting or were too darn stupid to know that they were crappy parents.

    However, there are a lot of adoptive parents out there (and I am a first mom, so no, I don’t really believe in adoption) that adopt and love the kids…. just not those that are adopting and have a lot of their own children, are too old, are adopting a lot of kids…. cause for them, it is about the buck or living like they were 20 again… all of it bs.

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