Emails between those ‘mal-adjusted adoptees’…

23 May
The Adoptedones:
You live down south and there are probably nasty snakes there. Are there? I hate, hate, hate snakes – spiders are good, other bugs are good, most reptiles don’t scare me but snakes, nada. Do you have snakes where you live? We only have garter snakes and they make me run and scream, worse than mice and rats. Strange email I know but the question came to me while watching TV last night.
Shadow Adoptee:
And, oh, yes, we have snakes. Mostly just rat snakes, otherwise known as bull snakes, or chicken snakes. They sort of look like rattle snakes, if a person isn’t familiar with the difference, or accustomed to see them. Not my favorite critter either. I try to make lots of noise, and if hubby sees one he tells me, so I can avoid or prepare for the situation. I’ve had babies crawl up on the bench by the back door to get out of the water, and on my swing to sun. If hubby isn’t around, I hit the bench or shake the swing before sitting down. Mostly they stay clear of us, and we stay clear of them. They do keep the rat and rabbit population under control, so the rule, “Stay out of my way/house, and I’ll stay out of yours.” seem to work for all. We haven’t seen any poisonous snakes around here. Those would be shown no mercy, an immediately killed. We have had a couple of six foot bull snakes, but they avoid us as much as we avoid them. On average, we only see two, maybe three, a year. Two of my neighbors actually had a snake, somehow, get in the house, but we think it was, for one, when she carried in some large potted plants, and the snake had just burrowed down or something, and the other, from under the house. I have a concrete foundation. Nothings coming up through that, and I don’t bring outdoor plants in anymore…for obvious reasons. Lol
The Adoptedones:
You are braver about snakes than I am. I have my feet up just reading what you wrote.
Shadow Adoptee:
I just wanted to see how you were doing? Is everything O.K.?
The Adoptedones:
Just overall kind of in a funk. How about you? You have been noticeably
absent lately.
Shadow Adoptee:
I’ve been spending a lot of time outdoors, mainly just sitting and daydreaming, listening to the 500 baby birds in nest under my carport chirping. My goodness they are noisy. Of course there aren’t 500, but it sounds like it. The mom and dad bids are so very busy trying to keep them all fed. My gosh they work hard. They are accustomed to me, so they fly near me, land near me, and occasionally poop on me. lol had to move where I was sitting. The babies should be leaving the nest soon, so quiet will return to the home front. Yeah! lol
Shadow Adoptee:
I’ve spent all week putting squash, from the garden, in the freezer. I thought I was done, until last night, when hubby brought in another counter full to put up. Guess what I’ll spend the rest of the afternoon doing? I’m beginning to really dislike squash.
Fill me in on what is going on with you? I miss you and my other online friends. Hopefully soon I can get back to the blog.
The Adoptedones:
Seems funny to hear you are already doing veggies as we are just now getting sun and temps in the 60’s.
Shadow Adoptee:
7 quartz of green beans, and that’s just the first picking. I’ve lost track of the squash, but the freezer is at it’s quota on squash. Still waiting on tomatoes to turn red. Why does it takes so long for a tomato to turn read? Cucumbers, well, I’ve gotten one so far, and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong there. I should have cucumbers running out my ears. Bell peppers and egg plant are covered with blooms, but no peppers or egg plant yet, which makes me wonder what’s up with that too. Am I just impatient? All of Hubby’s hot peppers are coming on strong, and he should be picking them in the next few weeks. We’re trying to beat the grasshoppers this year. So far, so good. Oh, and there’s a watermelon patch, but I have very low expectations there.
I read your last post to the blog. You wont believe this. One of the first things I did when I lost my job was try to root some roses from cuttings off my only rose bush. Out of three cuttings, one took and has a bud. I’ve tried another, but it’s still in the experimental stages. I took the cover off today and the new growth, on my latest rooting, began to wilt. I put the cover back on and took it out of the sun. Hope it’s not too late. Anyway, if/when the bud, on my first one, opens, I want to take a picture and email it to you. The rose bush is only a stick about two inches tall, but the bud is a good size for such a small plant. I think it would be cool to post it to the blog in memory of your dad. What do you think?
The Adoptedones:
And I was just musing at the window that the apple tree is filled with blooms and we should get a good batch of apples this year. The tree is a 5 variety dwarf apple tree and they come on at different times, so I don’t have to make apple sauce as we are always up for apple crisp or pie after dinner.
My strawberries are blooming too – they sit in pots on the front stairs to get the most sun and hang over the sides of the pots so they don’t get mushy from all the rain. I get a cereal bowl full every couple of days through October.
Rhubarb is starting and the grapevine is just budding out. The grapevine was a gift from dad as a start off one from his that hubby moved from our old house in the dead of winter simply because it was from dad.
The Salmon berries are coming on and the raspberry canes are growing like mad but that is all I grow now. (Salmon Berries are like a very mild raspberry that grow wild here and have small thin branches instead of canes.)
Amazing about you planting roses like dad did – I hope they survive. I doubt I would be successful as I ‘forget’ as soon as I plant something now, and if it survives it is sheer luck. I am successful with sweet peas…
Shadow Adoptee:
I had forgotten that we have a small pot of strawberries. Actually, it’s hubby’s pot of strawberries. I love strawberries. Unfortunately, we can’t keep the birds, or squirrels, out of them, and we only got about five strawberries. Apparently, a squirrel had buried a pecan in the pot over the winter. A little sprig of green started coming up in the pot. Hubby, pulled it up, thinking it was a weed or something. As it turns out, the sprig was attached to a pecan. It was a pecan tree that had taken root in the strawberry pot. Hubby put it in a five gallon bucket, which we normally would grow tomatoes in. It’s grown quite a bit since, and looks like we can add it to the other pecan trees someday, when it’s big enough. We have four pecan trees, but rarely get any pecans. The birds and squirrels beat us to them.
I hadn’t heard of salmon berries before. We have wild blackberries, but there been so little rain that they haven’t done well as yet. We had some wild grapes at one time, but again, the birds keep the fruit picked clean. I’ve tried just about everything to keep the birds from getting everything, especially my tomatoes. Then there are the squirrels, rabbits, possums, skunks, and the ever so hated grasshoppers that will show up in June. The only solution I’ve found; grow enough to feed them all, and us too.
Keep your fingers crossed that the rose will bloom soon. I think I’ve rooted all I can for the season, as it will be getting really hot here in the next couple of weeks, too hot for rooting roses. I still find it amazing just how similar we are. Oh, and would you believe, the little birds that have nested on the carport have hatched a second batch of little ones? I thought they just had one set of little ones a year. Apparently not, because, I swear, it’s the same mother bird that nested there before. I’d know that chatter anywhere. Oh, well, I had a few weeks of silence. OH, and we finally have a hummingbird coming to the feeder Hubby bought me for my birthday. Just wish I could see it.
Did you really think adoptees only talk about adoption and how horrible it is? 
And yes, we also talk about other things and these are just snipits from our latest emails, but I still find it amazing that two individuals who have never met in person, live in different countries, lived totally different lives, can share so many things in common, not just the fact that we are both adoptees.
Here’s to great friends…

Posted by on May 23, 2011 in Uncategorized


23 responses to “Emails between those ‘mal-adjusted adoptees’…

  1. Amanda

    May 23, 2011 at 4:15 pm

    “Mal-adjusted” adoptees talking about their wonderful lives and things they love to do?! Blasphemy! What shall we do with all of our stereotypes now?


    I wish I was good at gardening. I did manage not to kill a peony I had attempted to move from one spot of my garden to the other–I am sheepishly proud of that lol.


  2. The adopted ones

    May 23, 2011 at 4:18 pm

    Amanda – did you know Peonies do not like to be moved? One of the hardest to successfully transplant – Bravo!!!


    • Amanda

      May 26, 2011 at 8:44 pm

      I didn’t know that at the time. And boy did it not want to move either. But it was either move it or continue to have my dogs use it as a nice springy bed to lounge on year after year. I asked the poor plant to please forgive me! hehehe.


  3. Von

    May 23, 2011 at 11:01 pm

    It seems hard sometimes for others to comprehend that we can have the adopted lives we have, talk about it, bring out the issues involved and yet still have lives!!Fulfilling, busy, involved lives.
    Paeonies sadly won’t grow here where it is far to dry.I adore them and was lucky enough to have huge old ones in the garden when I lived in London.Happy squash zapping.


  4. cb

    May 24, 2011 at 12:32 am

    You are both making me look forward to spring lol. Your descriptions are so vivid.

    You would like New Zealand – they don’t have any of those pesky things like snakes, poisonous spiders etc – however, Australia has more than its fair share! We have a poisonous snake in the backyard at work here – however, it is one of those snakes that tries to avoid people. We still have our 10 bunnies. Our backyard at work (mainly seen from our specialist area) is much loved by our patients. I hope they never pave the garden over and make it into a carpark!


  5. shadowtheadoptee

    May 24, 2011 at 1:50 am

    CB, I’m guessing “car park” is to Austrailia what parking lot is to USA? I love the language differences.

    The only flowers, other than roses, I can grow are wildflowers that don’t depend on me for any help. Would you believe I planted 8 packages of marigolds, and I have one plant to show for it, and it hasn’t bloomed.

    Anyone have any squash recipes? I’m going to have to find numerous different ways to eat all this squash. lol


  6. The adopted ones

    May 24, 2011 at 1:29 pm

    Von – I inherited two beautiful pink peonies with this house (and they are just now in the bud stage) and they desperately need to be separated into four, but I have always chickened out, but now perhaps I will give it a try as Amanda was successful. Only thing I am not fond of is that you have to submerse them in water to to get the ants out if you use them as cut flowers.

    Caths – I have been to both and while I like Australia (only saw Sidney and the Gold Coast) I fell in love with New Zealand (south island? the one with Auckland) – especially the caves I visited with the glow bugs – think that was what they are called. I preferred the NZ weather better.

    Shadow – I love the differences in the language – my current favorite is still the ‘caravan’ instead of ‘motor home’ – sounds so much more fun. The road signs are much more direct and apply commn sense over in Australia and New Zealand than here – especially the one in NZ that is a “go ahead” sign at some T intersections where the road ending would have a stop sign here…


    • cb

      May 24, 2011 at 2:20 pm

      Auckland is on the North Island (I was born in Auckland and lived there until I was 8). Waitomo Caves are probably the caves you are thinking of. The thing about NZ is that it is every bit as clean as it looks in all the pictures (well, it was in the 80s when I last went). The South Island is considered the more beautiful island though they are both beautiful in their own right, the South Island is more wild in scenery than the North Island.

      I have grown to appreciate Australia over the years as well – the countryside is lovely in its own right. If you like NZ, you would probable also like Tasmania.

      Re language – I believe that South Australia uses different language to the rest of us Aussies, you will have to ask Von lol.

      I think a caravan is more what is called a travel trailer over there – I do think we call the large ones (with the driver area attached) motorhomes or Winnebagos like you do.


  7. Dannie

    May 24, 2011 at 5:20 pm

    yeah I kinda found it boring 😉 now if you would have been talking about baseball….that would have been a different story LOL. I’m trying to keep my tangerine tree and indoor plant alive. This is getting good for me.
    However, I did just eat a grapefruit from my parent’s mini orchard, both my folks have a knack for things….my mother gardening, my father….citrus 😀


  8. shadowtheadoptee

    May 24, 2011 at 6:27 pm

    Dannie, baseball huh? How about them Rangers! Nolan Ryan is my hero, and since he’s taken over the team, well, they can do no wrong. I’m hoping they win the world series this year…finally. I’ve waited soooo long, and Nolan deserves to win at least one world series ring in his lifetime. It’s too bad Pudge Rodriquez didn’t/couldn’t stick around long enough to win one with the Rangers.

    If you prefer a more exciting topic than gardening, I can cover cows, goats, and most especially horses. There is also the neighbors annoying little dogs that come to my house and bark at me, among other things they do, and which leave behind gifts I don’t particularly care for.

    If none of those strike your interest, I can also talk about hundreds of uses for baling wire, duct tape, super glue, and vinegar. lol As you may know, I’m also up for anything Texas related. I should have sent you pictures of the blue bonnets that bloomed in my yard. They are all gone now…just waiting on them to seed so hubby can mow. That’s his story at least. lol

    BTW, who is your favorite baseball team? This could be fun if our teams play each other.


    • Dannie

      May 24, 2011 at 6:42 pm

      yeah unfortunately I root for the Dodgers which is NL instead of AL, so I’m really suffering through this horrible year with nastiness and mismanaged funds and the like. My mother loves the Angels….so I know they play the Rangers. My one biggest annoyance with the American League is that the pitchers don’t bat unless they are playing a NL team where they match the rules….I mean really how silly is that. As a former softball pitcher who could hit very well and mastered the art of batting left-handed for bunting and small hits over the infield I take offense to not letting the pitcher hit 😀
      mmmm I love bluebonnets. That would have been a fabulous picture! We can also talk about TX things such as ‘sign stealing’, ‘muddin’, ‘driving through the drag’, ‘accidentally starting police car chases’….oh wait I think that was just particular to my then boyfriend and I. Ooops. Carry on. 😉


  9. Von

    May 24, 2011 at 10:31 pm

    Yes our language is a bit goes with all those churches and the lack of co nvicts! Also our many groups of settlers who brought us so many delicious foods, festivals and customs. Love it.


  10. Sarah

    May 25, 2011 at 12:37 am

    Um, can I come live with Shadow?

    Hello I have a Nolan Ryan poster in my basement!

    You’re making me jealous with your garden talk though…I haven’t even been able to plant a single seed 😦

    And although my Peonies transferred great last year, this year they didn’t bloom, and my hydrangea doesn’t look too hot either 😦


    • The adopted ones

      May 25, 2011 at 1:01 pm

      Hey Sarah – don’t worry about the Peonies not blooming this year – they had there feelings hurt being moved and need some time to sulk…the hydrangea’s I not that good with as I had to leave my 3 at the old house. I did read something about how you prune (or not) impacts them and the ph levels being important – do they normally go blue in the summer or stay pink or are they the cream ones?


      • cb

        May 25, 2011 at 1:53 pm

        I love hydrangeas!

        I think it is acidic – blue, alkaline – pink.


  11. cb

    May 25, 2011 at 10:00 am

    “accidentally starting police car chases’”
    (eyebrows raised)


    • cb

      May 25, 2011 at 1:53 pm

      btw this was addressed to Dannie


      • Dannie

        May 25, 2011 at 3:50 pm

        to be fair….the lead car was an unmarked car and at 2am us 20 year olds had only one thought out in the boonies…..AXE MURDERER.


  12. shadowtheadoptee

    May 25, 2011 at 3:08 pm

    Sarah, come on down. You can help me out. Today’s project: a wheel barrel full of yellow squash and zuccini. when that’s put away, there is a very large feed bucket full of green beans.

    Some of the tomatoes are, finally, starting to turn red. The way my luck goes, they will all turn red at the same time, leaving me more tomatoes than we can ever, ever eat. BTW, whhile picking squash yesterday, we had more than the bucket would hold, so had to use the wheel barrel. The goats wanted us to share, and kept trying to get the squash out of the wheel barrel… They kept me busy the little sneaks. The horses prefer the tomatoes, and, well, let’s just say, we have learned to not leave them setting within reach of the animals. Last year hubby set several on a chair while he went in the barn to shut the feed room door. When he came out, my horse was standing over the chair licking her lips. lol

    A Nolan Ryan poster? I’m jealous.

    Von, Australia sounds a bit like Texas. We have an over abundance of churchs, banks, and cemetaries. It’s the one country I’ve always wanted most to visit.


  13. Sarah

    May 25, 2011 at 5:28 pm

    The hydrangea blooms blue and has always been prolific…maybe with all the rain/flooding we’ve had the acidity changed in the soil?

    Shadow do you do your own canning? You should make salsa! I can lots of it in the fall and it’s super easy. I also make pasta sauce and can it. I use spice packs that are Mrs. Wages brand. You just add tomatoes, the spice pack, cook for a while, put it in the jars, and do the boiling water method to seal the jars. Yum!! Plus, you don’t HAVE to wait for the tomatoes to turn red. There’s the obvious fried green tomato, but you can also substitute green tomatoes for apples in any apple pie recipe…especially one that calls for tart apples. Double yum!! It’s really amazing I end up with any red tomatoes at all.


  14. shadowtheadoptee

    May 25, 2011 at 6:00 pm

    Sarah, I haven’t gotten brave enough to actually can yet, or maybe it’s more like I’m too lazy. I usually just frreeze the beggies. I was thinking of making salsa, but wasn’t sure if I could freeze it. Is salsa freezable?

    I hadn’t heard of using green tomatoes in the place of apples. I’ll have to check into that. Thanks for the info. I am working up to pickling, but haven’t tried that yeet either. Pickled green tomatoes…mmm…mmm…good.

    Dannie, I bet that was one, uhm, slightly, P O’d officer? lol


  15. Von

    May 25, 2011 at 9:39 pm

    Salsa!!Yum.I made bucketfuls for a local cafe one year.It freezes well.Peonies sulky badly, worse than any teen, sometimes for a few years…funny reminds me of my afather!
    My part of Oz is lovely,sea,coffee, food,lovely people what more could you need?


  16. Dannie

    May 26, 2011 at 6:35 am

    yes shadow,

    That officer was not happy….I don’t know how we didn’t get arrested. We weren’t drunk????? however, um we were just finishing up spray painting um I mean doing some art in the countryside so I was terrified they would discover the spray paint can and ask questions.
    Luckily our argument that we didn’t know that the car behind us was a police car was a valid one….we got a lecture, I prayed we wouldn’t end up in jail, and off we went 🙂



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