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Just what is an ‘expectant woman’…

16 May
She expects to be a woman? 
Sadly in this context it the person is describing an expectant mother and by taking away the title of mother and replacing it with woman, has just reduced her to simply a vessel or incubator…so wrong on so many levels that I have no words to explain my absolute disgust.
Talk about insecurity in not wanting to even allow the title of mother before the papers are signed…but hey…no problem calling the PAPS adoptive parents before the papers are signed…or even matched for that matter.  How would an AP liked to be referred to as an Adoptive Woman?
Now I am angry…wow…not acceptable at all.  She is an expectant MOTHER and will be the child’s mother FOREVER just like Adoptive Parents are Forever Parents.
Ugh…and people wonder why adult adoptees shake their head and get mad.  How about trying to have a little humanity?
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Posted by on May 16, 2011 in Adoption, Ethics

 

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10 responses to “Just what is an ‘expectant woman’…

  1. cb

    May 16, 2011 at 10:44 pm

    “How would an AP liked to be referred to as an Adoptive Woman?”

    That would make a prospective Adoptive Woman a PAW lol.

    “so wrong on so many levels that I have no words to explain my absolute disgust”
    If you add a few extra w’s to the acronym for Expectant Woman, you get ewwww, rather appropriate in the circumstances, I think.

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  2. Von

    May 16, 2011 at 10:48 pm

    Just a little respect and thought would help

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  3. Susie

    May 17, 2011 at 1:10 am

    As if “birthmother” while still pregnant wasn’t bad enough…

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  4. shadowtheadoptee

    May 17, 2011 at 4:42 pm

    CB, “paw”? You made me giggle with that one. Hmmm…maybe we should give paps a new label, like, maybe expectant adoptive parents instead of prospective? Expect seems to fit some of them much better. What do you think?

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    • Dannie

      May 17, 2011 at 6:47 pm

      “expectant adoptive parents” = EAP…..sounds a lot better imo than Prospective Adoptive Parent = PAP….it always made me think about pap smears…..sorry *snort* I seem to have an immature brain at times 😀

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      • cb

        May 18, 2011 at 7:23 am

        I have to admit I think of PAP smears every time I type it too.

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  5. cb

    May 18, 2011 at 7:32 am

    Perhaps HAP for hopeful adoptive parent, with HAM for Hopeful adoptive mother and HAD for hopeful adoptive father.

    or WAP – wannabe adoptive parent, with WAM and WAD.

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  6. shadowtheadoptee

    May 19, 2011 at 2:49 pm

    Ah, man…now everytime I read pap I’m going to think of pap smears too. lol

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  7. Sunday Koffron Taylor

    May 20, 2011 at 2:20 am

    I guess I was not alone in my free association PAP = Pap smear.

    “She is an expectant MOTHER and will be the child’s mother FOREVER just like Adoptive Parents are Forever Parents.” – that is of course unless they decide in a couple of years they made a mistake and decide to “disrupt” the adoption.

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    • The adopted ones

      May 20, 2011 at 1:33 pm

      Yah – I forgot to add that real possiblity – really sad to see such a high uptick of disruptions. People up the line somewhere are failing miserably in allowing the adoptions to happen in the first place. And we all know that many are re-homed indendently, so there is no real paper trail for stats to show the reality.

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