I just do not know what to say…

24 Feb
Each time I read a damning report on corruption in international adoption I keep hoping that people will say enough, no more.  We watch country after country close because of corruption but it seems like the bad players just look for a new country.  Yes, there are orphans needing homes but people have to stop and ask – how many bad adoptions are okay?  1, 10, 100?  When does it end?
What do you as a parent do when you find out your child did not need a home and already had a home?  You don’t get a do-over, instead you have to live with the guilt, the pain and try to do the best you can.  What do you say to your child?  What do you do?    How is that right for the parent or the child or the childs family back home?  How long and how many countries and families have to go through this before people say enough is enough?  What will it take for people to say No More, we will not switch countries and join the next country to adopt from creating the demand that fuels the supply when corruption is rampant.  When are people going to listen? 
There has to be a solution…and the solution will start with people accepting that corruption in international adoption and not pretending that it is only rare.  Remember they do not close countries to adoption for the rare case of corruption, they just don’t. 
Do you want to be part of the solution or part of the problem – it really is your choice.  Read this report from the Schuster Institute and read the other reports they have done and tell me I am wrong.
Orphaned or Stolen? The U.S. State Department investigates adoption from Nepal, 2006-2008

Posted by on February 24, 2011 in Adoption, Ethics


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5 responses to “I just do not know what to say…

  1. Von

    February 24, 2011 at 11:28 pm

    You are right and the sooner others realise it the sooner it will end.


  2. Henry Scobie

    February 25, 2011 at 7:56 pm

    Anyone wanting to understand the U.S. suspension should read:

    Nepal Children’s Organization (Bal Mandir) — Victims of Balmandir:


    Trade of Children (Voice of Children) at PEAR Nepal:


  3. Kara

    February 26, 2011 at 6:15 am

    It is heartbreaking what corruption and entitlement do to destroy natural families. Thanks for the timely reminder.


  4. Henry Scobie

    October 18, 2011 at 1:34 pm

    Nepal — Paper Orphans documentary posted on the web:

    Terrific documentary on the Bal Mandir kidnappings.

    By the Swiss INGO — Terre des Hommes.


  5. The adopted ones

    October 18, 2011 at 1:40 pm

    Thanks Henry – I saw the post but haven’t had time to view the documentary yet. People really need to understand what really happens and be concerned and say no we will not be party to something like this.



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