Isn’t the title a loaded statement in the adoption world?
Dad understood the ramifications, he studied genetics in med school and recognised that while the knowledge was limited back then, the impact genetics plays on each individual. Genetics interested him and he kept up on the advances made over his lifetime.
Mom on the other hand understood diseases ran in families but in the beginning I think she really believed the ‘professionals’ from the era on the blank slate concept. Over time and real life experiences, each one of us impacted differently, she came to realize genetics matters, a lot, just like love matters, a lot.
And if you look at life today, mom is close to 4 decades older than I and when she was my age all of us kids were still at home. She was busy from the time she got up until after dinner each night. Summers she was busy after dinner with all the canning and yard work. When we moved out and life slowed down, she took up volunteering to fill any spare hours. She stopped volunteering last year. Her age is finally catching up to her.
Now she understands the power of genetics when it hits you squarely in the face – this month we are both wearing cardiac event monitors – we are close to 4 decades apart in age – her wearing the monitor is normal for her age, actually she is starting very late – me, not so much, I am still too young according to all the rules I have already broken by having a heart attack and stroke. Today she is catching up to me and we now have cardiologist appointments, echocardiogram’s, and other tests in common…genetics matter – don’t fool yourself.