Can someone ever truly heal to the point that they do not grieve anymore from an event that caused them immense pain? Is there a simple answer or process or solution?
In my mind some events are so painful that you never stop grieving. And while I fully believe the my last statement to be true – I also believe we can find peace after an event but that peace is never constant for life because life gets messy and triggers feelings that we were at peace with.
I am at peace with the losses in my life but I will still grieve those losses and can be triggered by words, dates, places, and just the plain old longing deep inside that things did not have to work out the way they did.
So can a person truly ever completely heal from deep losses? Or do they simply wish to believe it is so? Do my feelings make me truthful or someone looking for pity? Are my feelings valid or should they be negated to make others more comfortable? Am I troubled or honest? I think we try to hard to not see both sides and lose more of ourselves because of it.