just a thought…

08 Jun
Yesterday I read a blog written by an adoptee who has had a good experience…who writes about how she/he went to forums and blogs to talk to other adoptees but all the comments are so negative and all she/he wants to do is find a way to heal…
What am I missing here?  Are there positive things you need to heal from?  What would those positives be?
Just saying…

Posted by on June 8, 2010 in Uncategorized


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2 responses to “just a thought…

  1. shadowtheadoptee

    June 8, 2010 at 5:26 pm

    I wonder what the adoptee wanted to talk about, or expected the conversations to be about? It’s sort of like saying if you had a deep cut, you would like to heal, but never see the blood from the wound, the stiches, or any possible scar, not to mention, never feel any pain? Ah, could it be another miracle of adoption; the miraculous healing of a wound that I refuse to admit might hurt?


    • The adopted ones

      June 9, 2010 at 2:43 pm

      Exactly – if you only have positives about your adoption experience then you have nothing to heal from. I imagine we were that way once…oh so long ago…not willing to see that you can have both loss and gain and that you can explore and work on the feelings of loss without being disloyal to your parents etc. Being in the phase he/she is in by denying there are negatives will not allow healing/working through that subconscious feeling deep inside.



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