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A Framework for Thinking Ethically an excellent article that describes the many different types of ethics and well worth reading and then thinking about which of the 5 Sources of Ethical Standards you most often apply in your life. A teaser to the article below.
What is Ethics
Simply stated, ethics refers to standards of behavior that tell us how human beings ought to act in the many situations in which they find themselves-as friends, parents, children, citizens, businesspeople, teachers, professionals, and so on.
It is helpful to identify what ethics is NOT:
It then discusses what ethics isn’t and then goes to the 5 different thought processes or approaches to Ethics. Fascinating read – I hope you enjoy it. Something all prospective parents should read, understand, and apply to the adoption process instead of naively believing there is no corruption in adoption because their agency told them so.
PEAR posted a DOS Adoption Notice: Ethiopia – More Orphanage Closures Announced which is an updated list that now has more than 2 dozen closures.
My question to anyone who knows – are these orphanages true orphanages based on our western understanding, or are they simply part of fulfilling the requirements for adoption referrals for international adoptions under Ethiopian Law and as such simply part of the pipeline?
Thanks Henry for commenting and reminding me to post a link to Nepal — Paper Orphans documentary posted on the web: Terrific documentary on the Bal Mandir kidnappings. By the Swiss INGO — Terre des Hommes.
Amanda at Declassified Adoptee has a thoughtful post her recent Adoptee Rights Presentation and then on the different responses she got to her photo post that came out of seeing the Occupy Pittsburg protest on her way home. Yesterday’s Photo: a Response to Some Responses It made me sad to realize that most likely the negative responses came from those who should be standing alongside fighting for our rights.
Another thoughtful post from Insert Bad Movie Title Here on how words impact us. The B Word
Malinda at Adoption Talk has posted about an article that reminds me that self-deception is alive and well in adoption land. “Children choose their parents”
Thanks to all the parents who have been actively engaged in talking about ethics in adoption this past week after they saw something that crossed the line in the sand. They have started a dialogue and discussions on ethics in adoption are happening on many different blogs. I hope it is a discussion that is never stopped.
These are the same moms who have spoken up in the past and have withstood the attacks of other misguided AP’s and PAP’s, because they aren’t willing to be silent when silence equals acceptance of extremely poor ethical conduct. Unfortunately, some AP’s and PAP’s still do not hear and would rather use God phrases to justify bad human behavior, but take heart that some will heed your words. Please always be ready to speak out when you see things done wrong.
If you want to make enemies, try to change something.
~ Woodrow Wilson
Every single prospective adoptive parent and those adoptive parents who have not yet done so, should read this book. Every. Single. One. A book that describes horrific lack of ethics and actions when power and bad intentions take center stage. A book that will make your stomach turn, and one you won’t want to read but cannot stop reading. After you have read this book you will realize that in various different guises, it is still happening today and you will wonder why no one ever learns from history.
The Baby Thief The Untold Story of Georgia Tann, the Baby Seller Who Corrupted Adoption by Barbara Bisantz Raymond
Finding adoptive homes for institutionalized orphans could have kept Georgia busy for decades. Unfortunately, she wouldn’t be satisfied with merely finding homes for homeless children–she’d become obsessed with finding adoptive homes for children who already had homes. She would acquire these children through kidnapping or deceit, and if she saved them from anything it was poverty.
Georgia considered poverty the worst possible condition. ”It was her upbringing, she was from a very snobbish family that looked down on people in those shanty houses who got their hands dirty for a living.” Andre Bond of Biloxi, Mississippi, told me.
Georgia felt she was taking children from “trashy people and elevating the children,” Christine Nilan of Nashville said. Christine had been adopted through Georgia by a cultured, educated family whom Georgia frequently visited. ”It was as if she thought, “There’s something that doesn’t belong over here; I’ll put it over there,” Christine told me.
Georgia often boasted about having placed children with “high type” adoptive parents, and she expected grieving birth parents to be comforted by this fact.
The back cover states in part:
This is the harrowing story of Georgia Tann, who from 1924 to 1950 stole or otherwise separated more than 5,000 children from their families. Whether abducting children outright or tricking new mothers still groggy from anesthesia into relinquishing their babies, Tann covered her tracks by replacing the names of birth parents on “amended” birth certificates. Her ploy was legitimized by officials who legalized closed adoption, claiming this would spare adoptees the taint of illegitimacy.
Scores of children in the custody of Tann’s Tennessee Children’s Home Society died, making Memphis’s infant mortality rate the highest in the country. Yet Tann was publicly lauded for her work. She also amassed a personal fortune selling children to the wealthy…
Barbara Bisantz Raymond is an adoptive parent who researched Georgia for 15 years and also found many adult survivors of these adoptions..
Ethics matter and I do not believe the adoption industry wants to talk about ethics unless it is simply a pat phrase such as we are the most ethical agency in the industry or some other marketing ploy. They don’t want to talk about it or have adoptive parents talk about it, because frankly it is bad for business. They would rather down play or dismiss concerns when a business that deals with children should strive for the top echelon of ethical conduct and blacklist any person (AP, PAP, or employee) or agency who does not meet only the highest of standards.
He that will not apply new remedies must expect new evils; for time is the greatest innovator.
~ Francis Bacon, “On Innovation,” Essays, 1597
Most, if not all of these parents talking are on my blog roll if you want to get involved in the conversation.
WASHINGTON, D.C., August 15, 2011 –- American parents of children stranded in orphanages around the world will take to the National Mall to march to the U.S Capitol on August 26. Dubbed the Step Forward for Orphans, the march is designed to bring attention to the dire situation that’s affecting orphans around the world.
So from reading the first paragraph the reader would jump to the conclusion that the adoption was finalized, done deal, the process complete which includes in international adoption authorization from the receiving country for the child to immigrate. Feel free to correct me but unless the parents plan to relocate their country has to approve the immigration and the sending country has to approve the adoption?
These families, many of whom have been waiting three years to bring their children home, have been caught in disheartening and mind-boggling limbo. These Americans are known as “pipeline” families. They were approved to adopt from foreign countries like Guatemala, Nepal and Vietnam and even paired with specific children, but they have been prevented from bringing their children home due to bureaucratic wrangling here and abroad. In many cases, these families have been blocked from all contact with their children, prevented from visiting, calling or writing, leaving these children alone with only photos of their families and the promises they made.
But this paragraph only states they were approved to adopt from foreign countries like Guatemala, Nepal and Vietnam and even paired with specific children. So which is it? The adoptions were complete? or they were approved to adopt and some matched?
To me there is a huge difference. Crude comparison but to me the difference is kind of like being pre-approved to get a mortgage contingent on the home you pick, acceptance of your offer by the seller, completion of the paperwork vs. having completed the purchase of your home.
The fate of the children of these American parents remains unknown as new adoption procedures are drafted, treaties brokered and high-level discussions continue. This hasn’t been going on weeks, or even months. A lack of urgency on the government’s part has stretched this separation of families into years.
And yet the third paragraph again makes the reader jump to the conclusion that the adoptions were completed by calling them parents…
So I am going to go out on a limb and if the Americans were only approved to adopt from one of those countries and lets say they were matched, or even that the sending country finalized the adoption - why have they not found other homes within the country to step up and adopt those kids? Surely that would have been the first solution that came to mind when those countries closed international adoptions due to corruption – get the kids out of the orphanages and into good homes – you know “in the best interests of the children“. With all the many different religions doing missionary work in those countries for decades, surely they could have worked within the community of their church or another church to find “good Christian families” willing to take in these children and allow their Christian counterparts in America to be Godparents to them – no? Would that not have been the obvious solution for those children?
What am I missing here?
And besides the above reading the rest of the article just made me mad. Why aren’t they marching to get the corruption out of the adoption industry – that seems to be the place to start doesn’t it? It would certainly give them more credibility if they marching to end the corruption that caused the closure of those countries to IA in the first place. To force tough laws in the US that included redefining the US trafficking definition to include illegal adoption cases, so there could be real punishments for the bad guys – so no one dared to do it wrong – in either country…