Misconception in open adoption…

By TAO

I have seen an increase in comments that domestic open adoption has solved the problem of the adult adoptee not having the same right to their Original Birth Certificate (OBC) as non-adopted, or, that the adopting parents obtained the child’s OBC prior to the adoption so their child won’t be denied the right.

 

Dear Adoption Agency Person…

By TAO

You are the first person to have commented on this blog from an identified adoption agency – thanks for being honest – do you know I actually look at who is commenting for the first time?  Just one of my quirks.  I know another agency follows this blog, but they don’t comment.  Just in case you are wondering, here are the reasons why I am not approving your comment.  Trust me, it is long so you may want to grab a coffee (or your choice of beverage).

 

The problem of how an “adoption issue” is viewed by some…

By TAO

Other children do the almost the same thing so it’s not an “adoption issue”…

So if other children go through a stage are they having a “biological issue” is the retort I say in my mind, and just shake my head in wonder at the denial about being adopted.

The problem is that “issue” has become something to deny happens – because adoption is win-win-win so there can’t be “issues”…and if there are “issues” something is wrong with the child, so then it still isn’t about adoption.

 

Assigning blame…

By TAO

We all have our own biases when it comes to assigning credibility, or blame based on how we view actions taken in life by other people.  It is something I have thought about lately, not just about what this post is about, but in other areas of life as well.  This morning I was thinking about how justifications, and denial are used within the adoption community, specifically with mothers who speak out about their treatment by an agency.

 

Ted Talk – Aditi Shankardass: A second opinion on developmental disorders

Very short talk compared to the very long title but worth every second…

From the Ted website:

Developmental disorders in children are typically diagnosed by observing behavior, but Aditi Shankardass suggests we should be looking directly at brains. She explains how one EEG technique has revealed mistaken diagnoses and transformed children’s lives.

Aditi Shankardass is pioneering the use of EEG technology to give children with developmental disorders their most accurate diagnosis.

 

Used for a cause…

By TAO

Can someone please explain why it is okay to use adult adoptees as poster children? You know it exploits the person, a human being.

From posts stating that Kaepernick shouldn’t be playing because he could have been aborted – despite the fact that there is zero indication in any news reports that it was even a possibility. Yet because he was adopted it apparently is fact to some who want that to be the focus. To twitter messages / instagram picture proclaiming he was also a foster child like Oher and how powerful adoption is, and who knows what else I thankfully did not see.