The comment that always pops up in discussions about ethics and adoption

By TAO

I am still working on reading all the discussions that have been started since “The Child Catchers” by Kathryn Joyce was published.  Really enjoying seeing both the responses and the pennies dropping.  It’s good – but I knew this comment was coming because it comes up on every discussion on ethics and adoption.  Paraphrased to spare the person who left the comment about why discussing it was bad, and you should only speak to a specific case or agency on a post talking about ethics and corruption in international adoption.

We don’t want people to think we bought our children, or for our children to think they were bought.

You can’t un-ring the bell on the world knowing that there have been, and are wrongful adoptions happening right along side adoptions that are done correctly.  There is proof of more than the rare case when entire countries have closed due to widespread problems that don’t magically disappear from international adoption, simply, because one country closes.  The choice is whether you are willing to do something about it to show both the world, and your child, that an adoption has to be done right, or not at all.  This discussion needed to happen and trying to shut it down only means that wrongful adoptions will continue to happen when accountability isn’t a requirement by those paying the adoption fees.

 

Now I understand…well not really…

By TAO

Apparently why international adoption is such a mess and broken is because of:

“Bureaucratic wrangling and administrative delays have caused this crisis.”

Nothing to do with cases of corruption, or fraud in-country, or overloading an already fragile social system by adoption agencies rushing into a developing country…

But they are going to march on Washington demanding changes.  What changes – would be my question, and is my question, but no matter how much I look I can’t find any concrete steps they want to see happen.  Just follow along and support us – you don’t need to know details.  Sign the pledge!  Shouldn’t you know what your specifically supporting?

Trust isn’t something that comes naturally for me when we talk about the adoption.

Actions always speak louder to me than words…

Now I will take the word of ”Parents for Ethical Adoption Reform (PEAR)” on this at face value - because they are walking the walk…do read their statement below.

Statement on the Documentary “Stuck”