Over the last 6 years I doubted many times I would make it to today. I did. I am a fighter, a survivor, resilient, adaptable and able to accept whatever life throws my way. I am celebrating a day 6 years ago I did not think I would see. I am now officially ancient…
And while I am celebrating this victory, I am also reflecting on that day so many years ago, the day of my birth and most likely the last time I was with my mother.
And on this day since I was a child, I would wish I could meet my mother, even just one time, to see her face, hear her voice, and listen to our story. That wish can never happen now.
So instead I wish…
1. That every adult adoptee will soon be able to request and receive their Original Birth Certificate.
2. That laws be enacted providing donor conceived and embryo adopted adults the same right wished above, to know where they came from.
3. That any adoption only happens after all options of family preservation have been exhausted and is done with transparency, ethics, and morals as the only guiding principles.
4. That the adoption industry would spend just a tiny fraction of their revenue/profit on educating both families of the adoptee on the absolute need to maintain contact regarding transfer of vital family health history.
5. That coercive tactics, manipulation, and trampling of rights would cease to exist in adoption.
6. That fraud, an ever-present enemy in adoption would be fought by all and that all would speak out when they see red flags.
7. That there were real penalties for the bad guys in adoption, jail time for starters and all monies be stripped.
8. That secrets and lies in adoption were banished by law, not created by law.
9. That all people understand that adoption has both loss and gain even in the best scenarios, and one is not cancelled out by the other.
10. That an adoptee’s voice was never silenced, dismissed, negated, only because it does not fit with someone elses point of view. Rather recognised as truth, their truth.
11. That any form of human trafficking could be eradicated, be it child laundering, donor driven, or sex trafficking.
12. That PAL (positive adoption language) be replaced with realistic, honest, language that speaks the whole truth that adoption is.
June 2013: The intent of this blog is not to exclude anyone in adoption, rather open conversations where people from all segments in adoption can talk together. Wide-sweeping statements that are derogatory against an entire segment in adoption is clearly not appropriate, using inflammatory terms against any segment will also shut down the conversation.
If you can't be civil then all comments will be moderated and unfortunately - some won't be approved.
Lizzie Borden 20th June ( 1893 ) : In the case of the murder of her father Andrew Jackson Borden, and her stepmother, Abby Borden despite incriminating circumstances but with no murder weapon found and no blood evidence found. A jury in New Bedford, Mass., found Lizzie Borden innocent of the ax murders of her father and stepmother. The case is best remembere […]