Without a mother and father placing their child for adoption there would not be a child that would become an adoptee upon adoption.
Without the above there would be no need for legal fiction to be created in the form of an amended birth certificate and transfer of custody from one set of parents to another set of parents and the records sealed.
Without the above there would be the normal flow of information between the parents and the child relating to health, social history, heritage of their family and the paths their ancestors traveled.
Without the above the child would not wonder if they will be given away again.
Without the above the child will not wonder what flaw they possess that they cannot see but must be obvious to others that would make their parents not want them.
Without the above the child will not wonder if they look normal as they would see parts of themselves in others in their family and know instinctively they are fine.
Without the above the child will know how their grandparents health was and if passed what caused it. The same with their aunts and uncles, parents, siblings. They will not be forever be blank slates in the terms of what awaits them health wise.
Now a new bill in New Jersey has some biological families upset because the bill allows all records to be provided – not just the original birth certificate.
They say that info is private and written by people other than themselves and may contain inaccurate information. I agree this is a possibility but not a given and at least have some confidence in the child of your loins to have the common sense to understand the difference.
They say their counseling records are private and with that I agree.
They say their social history and info about their families is private and should not be provided, I disagree that info is what the child would have grown up knowing if not for the decision to make the child into an adoptee.
They say their medical history provided is private and they should have the right to provide or not, I disagree for the same reason as previously noted.
The adoptee should have the same rights as a child raised in the biological family. They come from the same loins.
