Open Adoption does not mean adoption records are not sealed…


A comment by Robyn on the last post about adoptee rights made me dig into my draft posts to find this one to revise and post.  Part of Robyn’s comment said this: “We recently had a conversation on an open adoption group about how open adoption does not have anything to do with open records. Someone thought it did – that in an open adoption, the records weren’t sealed.”

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Posted by on October 24, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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A book…


The other day something in the title of a book or film (honestly can’t remember what), triggered a memory that took me all the way back to my teen years.  Way back in time to a different era, when my feelings about being adopted were at their most tumultuous.  Those feelings as a teen were hard, harder than any before, or since then.  Bad time for me being an adopted teen.

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Posted by on October 23, 2014 in Adoption


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What some adoptive parents think they know about what happens to the original birth certificate…


A question was asked on the Adoptive Families FB page on whether the adoptive parents had obtained their child’s original birth certificate before the adoption was finalized.  I have to say that while I think adoptive parents should get a copy, it also makes them less likely to recognise that their child, based on the state they were born in may not have the same right as all other citizens born there.  If they have their child’s OBC there is no incentive for some to stand up and say equality matters for all adoptees.  To me that’s a problem… Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on October 20, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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Good conversations happen in the comments…


One of the reasons I’ve kept this blog going is that I can see people start to understand a different view, not so much from the blog posts, but the comments and conversations by many different people.  I love the conversations that happen in the comments, whether they stay on topic, or wander completely away.  I struggle sometimes to write posts in a fully authentic voice, because I worry too much about whether it will be heard by those who can gain understanding, if they can only hear it.  So, I temper my words too much to make them softer, when I am a plain speaker at heart.  Comments though are different, it’s easier to talk one on one.  I was reading an old post and the comments it sparked, and thought I’d put a comment and response into a post to show that often the best part of this blog – is in the conversations that happen after.

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Posted by on October 16, 2014 in Adoption


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Adoption – you just can’t avoid it…


Far too many TV shows have an adoption theme, you can’t escape them as they come out of nowhere, and intrude into your space of “I’m just a regular person living my life like everyone else”.  Sunday night was no exception, we were watching Madame Secretary…(after the jump is a spoiler if you taped it to watch later)

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Posted by on October 14, 2014 in Adoption


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Open adoption seems to have many different definitions…


I want to get back to the subject of open adoption and how the definition appears to be changing.   I came back to this subject after reading a comment made on a blog post by a first mother from the closed era who runs a closed group on FB and a website where she helps mothers with an adoption plan (who she calls birthmothers before they have given birth).  I’m not linking to the blog post, but the author of the blog may do so in the comments if she chooses.  That definition of open adoption in the comments was updates via the internet until the child becomes an adult.  Updates to me – is not an open adoption.

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Posted by on October 7, 2014 in Adoption


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