Asking for negative stories?


Reading an adoption reunion story in Canada on the CBC News site.  I started reading the comments and it struck me how pleasant they all are, even the responses to comments they don’t agree with.  People commenting being civil.  Then I came to this comment and I started laughing…

“Please share some of the nightmare stories about reunions with long lost parents and children. We always hear about the happy ones and readers will sometimes write in to say that theirs was not so happy. I am sure there are a significant number of reunions which can turn nasty. However I doubt many of those would be willing to share details.”

It just struck me funny, a rallying cry for negative stories about adoption reunions.  Perhaps an insecure adoptive parent in a closed adoption?  A prospective adoptive parent?  One who uses search queries such as “positive adoption story” that leads them to this blog?  To me, the wording used in the comment does not sound like it is an adoptee speaking, if it was, the wording would be inclusive, instead of using words that speak of others in a group they aren’t part of.  Despite that rallying cry for negative adoption reunion stories, other commenters responded gently, and dare I say, politely?  Overall, it seemed most commenters felt that adult adoptees should have the right to know where they came from and that right trumped a parent by birth right to privacy.

Well done, more and more people are standing up for the rights of the adoptee to know where they came from.

N.L mom reunited with Alberta son she thought was dead



Posted by on September 16, 2014 in Adoption


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Adoptee Rights post…


Right now there is legislation in PA and Pennsylvania Adoptee Rights is asking for your support and help today.  Please consider their request for action today.

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Posted by on September 15, 2014 in Adoption


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A scavenger hunt of sorts…


I’m looking for blog posts, or comments in a discussion about things parents need to know about parenting a specific type of child, or about their family life with their children (whether adopted or biological), or really, any topic at all.  In addition to talking about or responding to a specific topic, it must also speak about their mom and dad and how grateful they are, a positive affirmation about how wonderful their life was growing up.

Ready?  Go…

P.s. It can’t be written by an adult adoptee


Posted by on September 12, 2014 in Uncategorized


I finally know…


I started a draft post on my birthday and intended to post it a couple of weeks later, then I forgot until the other day, and now it has morphed into a very long post because I’ve incorporated new thoughts into the post.

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Posted by on September 8, 2014 in Adoption


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Synonyms, Semantics, who cares…


Fair warning this post is snarky; but you will understand why I’ve started it this way with an analogy if you read to the end:

I’ve decided that I’m going to use the term adopter instead of adoptive parent from now on – they are synonyms of the other, so they mean the exact same thing…who cares that some adopters become enraged, others feel demeaned, or feel that it is a derogatory term.  It’s easier for me, and they should just get over it, because I know other adopters who don’t care and use it themselves…

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Posted by on September 6, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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Adoptive parents – please answer this question


I’ve been curious about how familiar adoptive parents were with the laws in the state, or the country that they were adopting in.  I’ve created a simple poll (Yes or No) that will take mere seconds to answer, but does differentiate between Domestic adoption (first two questions) and International adoption (last two questions).  Thanks to any adoptive parents who answer.  Feel free to comment. Read the rest of this entry »

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Posted by on September 5, 2014 in Adoption




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